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me and my husband has been on the outs for about a year know, the last 3 months has been real bad.
i was at the point to where i could handle and getting over the situation. than his ex dropped his kids off and never showed back up, i was fine at first. but, they have became coniving and lying and his daughter is out having sex with little boys in the basement of the school, with a little boy that my daughter has been talking to and that caused a problem between them and know she thinks she is pregnant. needless to say i tried to talk to her when i found out to have all the information before i went to my husband when he got home, what she told me and what she told my daughter is totally different than what she told her dad, so she caught lying. i am where i dont even want to be there or her anymore and cant even look at her. what is even worse she has had 4 partners and her mom knows and didn't do the right thing.
know his son is trying to pull sleek ones over my head, like tell me one thing and i call and tell my husband and he says i tried to tell her after the fact (he tried to when i was on the phone saying what had happened) he says he will get it takin care of but i dont know if he has.
my husband says he understands, but, i'm afraid that i am so sick and tierd of it that i don't think i can handle it anymore,
the kids and his ex has been like this ever since we have been together, but i was able to handle it cause, they where only there everyother weekend, my husband knows how they are but i cant deal no more, am i being selfish that i want my family back without the drama again.
i love him but i am where i cant even look at him cause, i fell like i am only there know to raise his kids, i do everything for them, all he does is go to work he dont take them to practice or the skating ring or take them shopping for there clothes, i do it all for all the kids, i have tried but, i cant nomore when they don't respect me, i have been them when their was not and has always made sure they had what they needed, god knows their parents didn't.
what do i do?
i was at the point to where i could handle and getting over the situation. than his ex dropped his kids off and never showed back up, i was fine at first. but, they have became coniving and lying and his daughter is out having sex with little boys in the basement of the school, with a little boy that my daughter has been talking to and that caused a problem between them and know she thinks she is pregnant. needless to say i tried to talk to her when i found out to have all the information before i went to my husband when he got home, what she told me and what she told my daughter is totally different than what she told her dad, so she caught lying. i am where i dont even want to be there or her anymore and cant even look at her. what is even worse she has had 4 partners and her mom knows and didn't do the right thing.
know his son is trying to pull sleek ones over my head, like tell me one thing and i call and tell my husband and he says i tried to tell her after the fact (he tried to when i was on the phone saying what had happened) he says he will get it takin care of but i dont know if he has.
my husband says he understands, but, i'm afraid that i am so sick and tierd of it that i don't think i can handle it anymore,
the kids and his ex has been like this ever since we have been together, but i was able to handle it cause, they where only there everyother weekend, my husband knows how they are but i cant deal no more, am i being selfish that i want my family back without the drama again.
i love him but i am where i cant even look at him cause, i fell like i am only there know to raise his kids, i do everything for them, all he does is go to work he dont take them to practice or the skating ring or take them shopping for there clothes, i do it all for all the kids, i have tried but, i cant nomore when they don't respect me, i have been them when their was not and has always made sure they had what they needed, god knows their parents didn't.
what do i do?
deleted_user
Sounds like a family counselor is in need. I would also let the school know what is going on and get recommendations. You cannot handle this on your own, professional help is needed.
deleted_user
This is a tuff one. At the moment the only thing I can suggest is that you copy this off onto the printer and show him in blak and white how this has effected you. Maybe wait for some more respones before doing it.
deleted_user
I agree with the others that you need some outside help at this point. Not really sure what all that is but some people here will give you some great suggestions. One thing for sure would be to start concentrating on you and your kids. Make sure you head in the direction of what is best for them. Your hubby needs to step up to the plate and help get the rest under control.
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I HAVE TOLD HIM TO DO SOMETHING AND HE SAYS I AM BEING SELFISH, THEIR MOM JUST DROPPED THEM OFF AND LEFT WE NEED TO KINDA BE EASY ON THEM, MY THOUGHTS ARE YOUR CRAZY, WE STILL NEED STABLABILITY IN THIS HOUSE. YOU DONT SEE ME WATCHING MY STEP AROUND MY KIDS WHEN THEIR DAD DON'T SHOW UP OR TELL THEM WE HAVE TO MANY PEOPLE OVER HERE AT THANKSGIVING WE WILL PICK YOU UP ON SAT., OR THE OTHER DAD HAS NEVER MEET HIS DAUGHTER JUST CALLS HER WHEN HE WANTS. I FELL LIKE THAT IS WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR KIDS THESE DAYS NO ONE WILL PAY ATTENTION TO THEM THEY JUST TURN THERE HEAD AND DOES NOTHING. YOU NEED TO BE THERE FOR YOUR KIDS NOT IGNORE THEM OR WHAT THEY DO WRONG.
patti22
You need to give the school their dad's work phone number. And family counceling is needed fast. And get the girl to the doctor and get some birth control. You really don't need step-grandchildren.
deleted_user
I HAVE AND I HAVE TOLD HIM TO TAKE HER TO THE DR AND HE HAS YET NOT CALLED THEM. HE WONT GO TO COUNSLING.
deleted_user
Obviously your husband is not interested in working anything out. Most schools have social workers, you need to contact one.
deleted_user
Wow! It seems you are the only one that cares for those kids and they don't appreciate it. Their Dad needs to step in and not leave you all the raising of his kids. Counseling is very important for all you! God luck...
deleted_user
WHAT GETS ME IS THAT HE MADE ME GET RID OF OUR KID, IM GOOD ENOUGH TO RAISE HIS KIDS BUT NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO HAVE OUR KID, SO THAT IS ALOT OF IT I THINK, WHEN I LOOK AT THEM AND SEE HOW MUCH TROUBLE THEY ARE GIVING ME IT HURTS WHEN I SEE THEM, I JUST WANT TO TURN BACK TO LAST SEPTEMBER. I WANT ALL THE HURT TO GO AWAY.
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