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i made him lose his friends

deleted_user
deleted_user
i had a discussion with stbx a bout a week and a half ago and he says i have an emotional attachment to my best friend who is like a sister. he proceeded to ask if i was gay. i told him NO and i said karen and i are relly good friends we call each other alot and are here for eachother thru thick and thin. theres nothing wrong with that. and i said to him that he oughto Get some friends and he'd know all about what true friendship is. he said "I lost all of mine when i got married" nice. so its my fault now he's a loner and a f'n loser. what do you think?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think it's easier for others to place blame than accept it. True friends are around whether you are married or not
chowgirl
chowgirl
I've never known anyone to lose their friends because they got married. One of my best friends is married to my stbx's brother (they introduced us, I've know her since we were in grade school), and we're still friends despite the impending divorce. I'm a big believer that you reap what you sow. If he lost his friends, it's because he wasn't a very good friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The kinder thought is maybe he is jealous. Try spending more time with him and not so much with your friend. Try to see that if he commented on it, he is lonely and feels left out.
deleted_user
deleted_user
uh,
no offense BeckyW, but I think annmd, should NOT spend time with her stbx!

He's placing blame on you that he's a loser.
It's his problem if he can't maintain a friendship. His "are you gay" comment just shows that he doesn't understand what a close friendship is.
And he's an ass.
Good riddance.
deleted_user
deleted_user
maybe he just doesn't have any friends because he isn't a likeable guy?? Just a thought
shinyhappypeople
shinyhappypeople
I read a book about a year ago about this sort of stuff. Basically if your married then you should keep all your friends who are considered "friends of your marriage" meaning do they support your marriage. I understood that, in my case, we had friends for each of us and when we examines our friends his friends were not friends of the marriage as they encouraged drinking, womanizing and behaviour that was not respectful to the marriage. On the other hand I had friends who were ready to pounce on my hubby and then get angry with me when I said nice things about him (when we were trying to make it work). This was really helpful advice and I am going to use this in the future...if I every get involved with anyone again!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow you have scary super powers you make mens friends drop them. I wonder if they just saw in him, what you are now seeing. If any one loses friends usually then only have their selves to blame. He is giving you a lot of power be careful what you do with it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i think it's awesome that you have a friend like karen, i have 2 friends that i have been friends with for over 30 years. they are such a part of my life and nothing will ever change that. your H is just a whiner.
Thriver
Thriver
Just ignore him. He has reached his quota of stupid things to say and still be listened to.
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