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I'm so emotionally fragile

deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok I woke up this morning feeling better than the last few days, and I promised myself i would not go and see him or call him. I was driving to work and got quite emotional with the music on and my thoughts racing through my mind. I recalled all the time when we drove down this road together and the good times we had together.

Anyway by the time i got to the car park i was ok. The attendant at the car park was extremely rude and told me to park at a tiny spot which my car could hardly fit. I am not a good parker and I asked him to give me a bigger spot. He plainly told me to either park there or get out of the car parking lot!!! He walked away and left me to park, I just broke down and cried in my car.

I would usually never let anyone bully me like that, but today i felt so hopeless i just cried my eyes out. The attendant came over and saw me, he was a bit shocked that i was crying so he offered to park my car for me. I mean i was angry at him, very angry, for treating me like this because i am a 24yr old girl driving a small hatch. But I am more angry and devastated at myself, at my ex, for turning me into such a person, for making me so emotionally fragile.

Are any of you out there feeling the same way?
chowgirl
chowgirl
Good Lord, I'm a total basket case. When I go home and my dogs are jumping all over so happy to see me because they've been alone all day, I start crying. I've developed a facial tick, and I feel like I'm constantly on the verge of panic. This is a tough time, and we have to just give ourselves a break.
deleted_user
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Yes--but only the small stuff, the big stuff and everything else in between triggers an emotional meltdown. Hang in there--it's all we can do.
deleted_user
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I don't know what it is, but I've been feeling really on edge all day. It actually started last night, but it's getting worse.

I think it's the impending holidays, stressing me out.

When I got home tonight, some people who live upstairs from me were walking in front of me, and I felt like screaming at them to either move faster or get out of my way. I just wanted to get into my apartment and be alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i feel exactly the same..if u read my post u will see. i dont know ur circumstances exactly but i def now the feelings u r describing

it hurts lik fucking hell
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thanks for the replies guys and the kind words. I am going through the exact thing as all of you. I am just so impatient and anti-social these days as well. At work i just want to be left alone in my office and not have anyone bothering me. I used to be a fun person who love chatting at morning teas with my colleagues, but now i'm afriad i would break out in tears if i starting 'gossiping'. Just not in the mood for anything, and people at work are sort of 'scared' of your emotions if you are always moping around, if u know what i mean.
deleted_user
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I'm past the "basket case" stage, but I know it well! I went to an eye specialist after I moved here from Chicago (now in colorado), nurse said "so what make you move from Chicago to here"..wham I burst into tears. So, rather t han look like a TOTAL idiot I told her about the breakup and my fleeing (not the gory details mind you). She was very nice, gave me tissues, kept patting my back. Doctor walks in..reads my chart and say's "So why did you move here from Chicago". That nurse elbowed him so hard, I thought she was going to puncture one of his lungs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
And what's worse.... You see the ex and they don't have any emotion at all. How can they be so cold?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Courier, your story made me laugh. I remember several months ago, shortly after I found out about the affair, I was in the dentist's office. The hygenist was trying to talk me into something that was going to cost a lot, and I burst into tears and told her I was getting a divorce.

A few minutes later, out of the corner of my eye I noticed the dentist start to walk into the room, look at me and the hygenist, and back out again.

I think he was afraid to approach me at that point!
deleted_user
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Unfortunately, ppl don't chose to treat ppl like they want to be treated. It happens. Remember every dog has his day.
deleted_user
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I know it hurts but what you have to remember is now we have the time to work on us instead of jumping through hoops for someone else. My husband packed his things today and although I still deeply love him, I'm a little releaved that I can stop being the monster he turned me into. I finally, finally realized I was living a lie with him. I was in a marriage where the only thing that matter was him and because I wanted to be a good wife, I just lost who I was. I'm 43 and I'm pretty sure most of you are a lot younger than that, so now is your chance to find your dreams in life. Best of luck to everyone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OMG BGibson I just read your reply and what you said was exactly what my ex told me!!!! He said I've turned him into someone who is not him, and he is starting to hate himself for allowing me to do that. He also said he was just no longer happy and living in a lie. I just didn't understand it and still don't, I knew he was unhappy but how could he just walk away like that??? sigh.

when i talked to him on sunday night, we were both quite emotional, i let him know i blame him for walking out on our relationship, and for hurting me.
deleted_user
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Yeah.
I am always the strong one. I left my husband, moved in with my mom late one Friday and got up early to work the next day.
Since then I've taken over my department.
That was three months ago.
Now, I'm in my own place, things are going well and they start to go tough at work, okay fine..
Then I get the last papers we need to file for the divorce.
I lost it.
I quit my job today because I can't handle the stress.
And I'm trying to tell myself that it's okay to take care of myself and get out of my stressful job.
I've never felt this fragile.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I really hate myself for being so emotional, all through the day i sit here at work trying to concentrate. Most of the day i think i am coping ok, and then out of NO WHERE, I would feel this pain in my heart and tears in my eyes, I can't even stop that emotion coming from deep inside me. I want to stop, i want to tell myself "be strong, let go." I just CAN'T, and i really hate him at these moments for leaving me, for walking away, for not trying when we had something so special. I HATE HATE HATE HIM FOR RUINING IT ALL. I am really trying to hold back my tears....
deleted_user
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Yes, I lived for my ex and I do not know any other life and it is hard to move forward because I do not know how. I was with him 15 years. But I am bullheaded and I won't lay down and die. In my heart I know it will get better but it is not going fast enough. I am lucky I have my children and they love me and understand. Not everyone is lucky like that. But it is hard no matter what support a person has.
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The break up was 10 days ago, i was very depressed and cried a lot, and emotional all the time. Since yesterday I am more angry at him than anything? Is this normal? have i gone from the sad stage to the angry stage? what happens next. I was so angry at hime I was considering calling him and telling him I never want him in my life again. Trust me, I am never like that even during my last break up. I could never cut him from my life, even though he hurt me, he was my best friend...
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