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I'm not his sounding board anymore!!!

deleted_user
deleted_user
X just txted me...

Company falling apart around his ears... good man just quit... Government and tax man breathing down his neck... business partner f*cked off to parts unknown leaving x to clean up mess... etc, etc, etc... (is it Karma???)

I was his sounding board for years, but he chose to replace me...

Do I just tell him to stop txting me, because it just drags me down???
deleted_user
deleted_user
I believe my doctor called me, my STBX's emotional punching bag.
I'd tell him to text someone who cares. LOL!
Seashells1
Seashells1
Unless it pertains to financial matters that concern you, I'd tell him to stop. If push comes to shove, tell him that it's illegal to discuss personnel matters with a non-employee.
CanadianRose
CanadianRose
WTF do you have to do with it all?...

text him back..

Leave me alone. I am not your wife!

noo.. u know what.. don't even reply...shows that you care enough and are respectful enough.

if the company's success contributes to your spousal support funds.. just leave it.. don't reply..
deleted_user
deleted_user
Tell him to ask his new "mental health provider". Remind him you were let go. Mean, insulting? Yes. but you get your point across. Sorry for being bold. That's what I would do though.
deleted_user
deleted_user
In my opinion, never answer e-mails,txtes, or phone calls ever. Unless it will benefit children. Kids always come first.
deleted_user
deleted_user
One way or another, it probably won't affect spousal support, unless it totally goes t*ts up... but he can't afford to not work, this mess has left him with a lot of debt. He was just hoping to be able to do a job he likes better, than what he has been doing all these years... may not happen.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I must agree with CR, let him vent, just erase the texts and don't respond. He'll get the message soon enough.

Be kind to yourself, getting mean or nasty with him will only come back to haunt you later.
deleted_user
deleted_user
In your case I am glad to finally see what goes around comes around. There is a GOD after all. I sure hope that day will come for me when I get to see my stbx get's her's in the end.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try being Honest with him. Whatever Honestly pops into your head-say it.

I am trying to do that, now, to see if the man will Finally STOP.

Asking him to realize that he is Divorcing me, so I really shouldn't be his confidant, hasn't worked...Now I smile and say, "Oh, they must just be tired of your Yelling." "Don't think of it as rejection, think of it like a Divorce, opportunity to Better yourself." "Wow, sorry to hear that, you Are going to have financial strain for a bit"...Get the picture???
deleted_user
deleted_user
IGNORE him...
don't even let him know he's bothering you.
if anything reply, so sorry to hear and leave at that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
To answer your question: Yep.
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