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I'm losing it I need to send him an email

deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok I'm so close to just emailing him and saying What the F**k are you doing... I know you are miserable and so am I.... what happened? but I am afaird of his reply if he even sends one... It's been 3 weeks.... he walked out.... said he wasn't happy... Well I'm still miserable... how do I get past this... I thought I was doing so good but it all just hit me again... Why do I want a man that walked out and said he wasn't happy and wanted to be able to do what he wanted to do when he wanted and not have to answer to anyone...Get real you are 55 yrs old.... Am I stupid or what.... sorry just losing it again for the 7th thousand time....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Be strong... find something to occupy yourself right now to get past the urge.

You don't know if he is miserable; he walked out.

Get out, paint, do something to get past this 'email' moment.

Hugs Kath...
deleted_user
deleted_user
well you have done the first step and that was coming here and posting it instead of sending it to him... It just got to breath. Take it moment by moment and breath... Try to find something to take your mind off of it. Clean cook bake what ever it takes... just breath
deleted_user
deleted_user
have u heard from him at all in 3 weeks? How do u know he is miserable. I wouldn't email him unless I was totally prepared to hear something I may not want too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Where you married along time? father of your children? what a b-turd... He doesn't want to answer to anyone!!! smells like another women... I wouldn't contact.. get out the paints and start painting.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hugs to you. I know this is hard.. But be strong.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry for how you are feeling. But I agree with the others. I question if he's really all that miserable.
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
Journal on DS instead. You don't want someone who could so coldheartedly walk out on you and not even speak to you.

You deserve better. It's normal in the early stages of separation to want to talk to them. Most of us have done it. It will only bring you more pain.

Hugs to you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Paint, scrub walls, organize closets, do crossword puzzles. Anything to keep your mind and hands active. If he walked out...sweep the dirt out behind him!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry you're hurting. My 50 something husband walked out too. I found out there was another woman. This is so new to you that you can't expect to feel even OK yet. It took me many months. I wouldn't call. Hugs to you.
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