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I'm in a bad place

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deleted_user
I don't know if I can hang much longer. Everyday I come home it's like a roller coaster. My STBXW is either neutral or cold as ice. She ignores simple questions or gives me such an attitude it knocks me over. I was told not to move, but I don't know if I can stay here. Maybe she can move. I wish she could chill out even just in front of the kids. I try be as calm as I can but this is just ripping me apart. I'm doing the same old as I always have done around the house with chores, and she says i'm just trying to look good.


OMG, my wife and I just talked for about an hour. WHAT A BREAK THRU. It started out rough, but I stayed calm and put down my sheild alittle. I can't believe it.
I have to go for now.
Garrison
Garrison
...Everything OK?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, i'm ok. We just talked about the future living arrangments and the kids. We have just NOT been talking at all, and all of a sudden, wham, we talked like normal people. I still feel i'm on a roller coaster.
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Oh I know it sucks. I am so sorry. I too sometimes feel like I can't take the pain anymore but I still wake up in the morning. Every day is a day forward. You'll make it. I am living my worst nightmare and I cannot believe the strength and resilience my heart and soul has come up with thus far...
deleted_user
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My stbx and I talked and we are in the process of moving out. The house will be rented and I will move back to my parents. He is looking for an apartment but until then we are in the same house. That is when he decides to come home. We don't have kids so there is no need to check in. It will be better when we are both moved out so I don't have to wonder where is he and who is he with.

Hang in there and be strong for your kids.
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"I try to take one day at a time...but sometimes several days attack me at once."
~ Jennifer Unlimited
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hang in there. Every day is a struggle, and a challenge, but it comes with reason. I am in the same boat, as far as the no talking, but my husband packed his things and left. You need to try to do what will make you feel better now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wish all guys were like you guys on here..My husband left with our baby almost a month ago.He won't talk to me at all. When I see him online I try to ask to see my baby or tell my husband that I love and miss him and our baby then he gets offline without saying anything..Doesn't he know I am hurting..I wish he had some feeling. My world has been ripped apart and he doesn't care..
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel your pain. It's hard when they switch from combat mode to peacekeeper. You stay tense all the time waiting for the next fight. Next thing you know your so emotionally drain you jsut dont care.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations for remaining cool, calm and collected in a very tough time of your life. Talking, something so simple yet so complex when feelings and hurt and anger are involved.

I'm so happy you had a breakthrough, at least for the day. A step in the right direction. Hopefully tomorrow will bring even more communication. Good luck.
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