Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I don't know what to do. I just want this to be over. No more fighting.
My husband doesn't want us to get lawyers. Neither of can afford that. He wants to do it all ourselves using Paralegals. But I'm so afraid it wouldn't work. He has such an verbally and emotionally abusive personality, I know I will give in to things I don't want, just to not have to deal with that anymore.
My friends and family keep telling me to get a lawyer, that I need one to protect myself, but how am I going to pay for one? Husband has all the power and all the money.
My husband doesn't want us to get lawyers. Neither of can afford that. He wants to do it all ourselves using Paralegals. But I'm so afraid it wouldn't work. He has such an verbally and emotionally abusive personality, I know I will give in to things I don't want, just to not have to deal with that anymore.
My friends and family keep telling me to get a lawyer, that I need one to protect myself, but how am I going to pay for one? Husband has all the power and all the money.
deleted_user
honey, you sound so tired, but your answering your own questions. you know your going to give into things so you don't have to deal with him, but thats not fair. call legal aide in your town or city and ask them what to do. you don't want to deal with a verbally emotionally abusive person that is going to bully you into things you don't want to do. take back your power. make it the start of being on your own again, i know these are just words, also if you believe in God, then just start praying also, He won't let you down.
deleted_user
Well he might have the money but he doesn't have the power. I had to get an attorney for mine too paid thru family loans, and payment plans. Also a bonus is that my best friend is also an attorney so I can get some advise. You could call some attorneys and just ask some questions as to what you are thinking and see what they could work our for you. Also the state web sites have some free advise also. Just stand up for yourself and don't let him take total power away from you.
deleted_user
You might want to look into it, but in my area if you don't have the money which you are saying you don't then there are programs out that the state will help pay for your lawyer. I would call your local welfare office. Just a thought. Also if he is the one innitating the seperation then he may have to pay for your lawyer. Let him use the paralegal and you can have your lawyer that won't allow you to get walked all over. Good luck!
Join the Conversation
-
theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
-
I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
