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deleted_user 10/27/2007

Seriously, I am an idiot. I sit here and mope and feel sorry for myself for what? A man who is obviously doing pretty good who lives in the house that he wouldn't have if it weren't for me (Being HIS dependant and living on a Military base), buying $100 worth of groceries just for himself ( That better be for the month or at least 2 weeks). I am so naive it isn't even funny. I try and call all day to give him my bank info that he requested, and he won't answer his phone. Do you think that he is even thinking about me? HA....NO! He claims to have no other woman, but how can I sit here and believe that? I don't trust him anymore..PERIOD. He expects me to believe what he says after he ripped my heart outta my chest?

ARGH!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Sorry Christye but as I understand it the military takes a dim view of some one who does this to his wife.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Stop calling him, especially to help him in any way.

Thriver 10/27/2007

Ok, but if you're an idiot, then we're all idiots up here!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

You have to actually prove he's cheating. Like...video's, confessions,etc..I heard it's very hard to prove adultry in the Military.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

I think almost ALL folks here have been in the same boat at one time or another, it's just part of being human and loving someone who ends up betraying you and throwing you away.
You aren't an idiot, even if you act like one due to someone else breaking your heart. That's normal.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Thriver...I am more of an idiot because I keep calling him, and I still think he's always thinking about me. The things that I do personally makes me an idiot I should have clarified.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Fellow idiot right here. Today, I was out driving and was by his place, I couldn't get myself to actually drive by, but I could see that his garage was open. He was home, probably working in it. I thought, here I am constantly thinking of him and constantly missing him and he probably hasn't even given me a second thought. Allow me to second that ARGH!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

ARGH'ing is so helpful sometimes. You deserve to ARGH when ya need to. ;)

CanadianRose 10/27/2007

I find a good BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!.. really helps me out!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Fellow Idiot Here!!! I just got back from separating our cell phone plans that we have to individual and actually told him I have no money and haven't in a week and he just kept on listening to the radio not one time offering money, and there I was wishing everything I had for that jerk to tell me that he was coming home. Double ARGH!!!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Your not an idiot, but our SO's sure make us feel like one!

I refuse to let her control me anymore! Her calls now go unanswered, whereas in the past I would answer and end up a mess. She has been calling the last couple days looking for $$$ help and I have ignored her calls and delete the voice mail.

She is not the person I use to know. She has been replaced by a uncaring, selfish person that I don't care to ever see again.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Biggest idiot here, I've been paying his car insurance for the last 6 months......

AAARRRRRGH!!!!

deleted_user 10/27/2007

KAB7 - I got you beat. My first marriage after separation I paid the house payment, bought her a new car, (She made payments) paid her car insurance for over two years.

CanadianRose 10/27/2007

I was an Idiot.. no more.. well.. okay sometimes..

it will get better.. much better.. this is a temporary thing.

this morning the EX called to tell me that an Atlas at the bookstore was in hard cover and way too expensive for our daughter.. I said "forget it.." and hung up.

I think he finally figured out that I keep hanging up on him. When I am finish speaking.. I hang up.. I don't want to hear his opinion.. and I don't want to hear his excuses. It is not of any value to me so .. I now am strong enuf to CLICK him out.. he is the idiot now.

temporary thing...you are not an idiot.

cos.. I was.. and it passes.

deleted_user 10/27/2007

Oh my lovesuks, I am still paying it but I hope I don't end up doing it for two years. Why can't I just cut him off? I give him money for food, gas and school......what is wrong with me? At least we're not alone in this idiot thing ;)

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