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I'm a chicken

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So I wanted to divorce, now we may work things out. I think divorce it inevitable........... I got a taste of divorce already. Your dream is gone.........your life is changing. You feel like you have failed in life, and it is the sickest feeling I have ever experienced. I have fallen to the ground crying, thought so much about details, wondered what is going to happen next, and how long will I feel terrible. I never want to feel the horrible pain I felt when I knew it was coming to an end. However, I don't want to stay in this unhealthy marriage.

Divorce is a horrible death, and right now I have a choice. I can prolong it, and live miserable. Possibly, I can go through the horrific torment of divorce so that I can be happy again. UGGGGGGGGGg

I am a chicken
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http://www.coupleprayer.net/
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You're not a chicken. You're human. Think of divorce as a form of chemotherapy. Hard to go through, makes you sick, may even make you want to die but you have to go through it in order to get healthy again.

You will summons up the will to leave when it is more painful to stay in an unhealthy marriage than it is to go through a divorce and risk being alone again. Hugs.
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The fact that you have thought this out so well proves that you are brave and strong, not a chicken. You need to do what you feel is right to save the marriage if possible. Otherwise, you will always wonder. But when you know that things aren't going to improve in the long term (things don't get solved, they just come back every few weeks, months, etc) it is time to accept the temporary pain in exchange for a hope for a better future. Something that you can't have in a bad marriage! Be strong and when you feel weak, come here. It has worked for so many of us!
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i know how you feel. but this only makes you stronger. thickens your skin. learn from your mistakes. lick your wounds and move on. sometimes what we least want is what we need. you'll be happy one day. just dont give up and you'll see that everything has a way of working out. you'll find someone that will make all your pain go away and you'll be happy again.
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I found that stating my expectations for the future to be a big help. I have told my wife that she needs to decide if she is the one to meet those expectations (and to share her expectations with me to see if they mesh with mine). I wish we had done this 14 years ago.

You are a person who is entitled to dream, state them and see if it helps.
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your not chicken. just scared and fear makes us do a lot of things we don't want to. pray about this and when your peaceful about it you know Gods answer.
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