But I do. Some input from my more learned DS friends would help. My STBX has been out of the house for 8 weeks. Our divorce was filed right away and was supposed to be final last week but now it is postponed for some technical stuff. Anyway, I have been checking (and I know I shouldn't) and neither the OW nor her husband have filed for divorce yet. Sometimes I get thoughts of him being with her, even marrying her or just dating and introducing her to my son...UGH. As of a few weeks ago he continues to claim he has not slept with her because "caring about her and fucking her while she is still married are two different things." When I asked why she hasn't filed for divorce yet he got very defensive and said "that is their business, not mine." When I have been trapped into talking to him he always goes on about how he has to work so much and when he begs off seeing my son he says things like "I know you think I have something to do, but I can assure you that I have no life, no social life, and all I do now is work." Once I got snotty and said "aw, is she fucking with your head" and he said "maybe....no, no, what they do is their business." Any thoughts on what this all means? I know I shouldn't care, but I do for some reason. I hate to think she would go through with breaking up her own family and hurting her kids like mine has been hurt. The thought of her bailing on him actually gives me pleasure. Maybe it became too real for her? Maybe he is not so much fun now that he doesn't have my money to spend on her and has to work all the time just to make it? Maybe he really is as miserable as he sounds and she doesn't like it? Maybe she realized that going from one barely making it guy (but with a 15 year history, 3 kids and the comfort of the home her parents own but that he has contributed to and probably has some property rights) to another one who is now starting over in a rental house he cannot afford, working all the time, being tired, being grumpy and can't make time for his own kid isn't so magical? And why does it even matter to me? Fuck.
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