ROb, I am sorry, that just bites. You thought you were being a loving husband seeing your wife off in the morning. There is nothing to bash there.

I've remembered similar things too. Little details that make me crazy if I think about them too much.

I'm sorry, I know it hurts.

Rob all of those litle things do matter, they will matter again. She just didn't deserve them, maybe in time someone else will.

It hurts a lot, I know. I remember getting the phone calls that she'd be going to the gym right after work, so I'd cook dinner and make sure it was on the table when she got home. Big surprise, turns out she wasn't at the gym.

Why do we, the ones who were cheated on, continue to focus on such things? I wish more than anything I could be filled with nothing but hate, but so far no luck with that.

Hang in the Rob. This just proves you're a kind, caring person. I'm with you.

Rob...YOUR intentions were pure in what you did. She abused it. She lost out and trust me my friend things will crash down around her. She will also want to come back.

I was told the same thing...didn't believe it and sure enough.

Try to do something today to smile.

I remember similar things. You're a good man, and that she can never take away.

I think we all have those on occasion. Just this morning, I was remembering how my stbx would never allow me to go to his company functions. I thought that he was embarassed of me....come to find out, he was having an affair with the blonde bimbo receptionist! UGH! These horrible thoughts are there to remind us they WE aren't missing out....THEY are. HUGS TO YOU, MY FRIEND :)

Rob, Thanks for the post. It stirred up some feelings. My
ex-financee could be so sweet sometimes. He made me breakfast in bed just about every morning. It wasn't always a big breakfast coffee, juice and a bagel. Then other times he would make french toast and fruit. Sometimes he would make eggs and bacon on english muffin. It was so thoughtful and very much apprecitated. How can someone do things like that then... turn around and beat the living shit out of you? I will never understand that, as along as I live.

Nothing at all to bash Rob.

You are a good man, a sincere man....and a loyal and dedicated spouse.

I don't have similar memories of my spouse wishing me off well to work. SHE was very lucky to have you as HER husband.

the old addage again, sorry for repeating it;
You don't know what you've got til its gone.
SHE knows she lost a very special person.

Why would we bash you buddy? I think that was very nice and loving

No bashing - just understanding and comfort. We all want to love and be loved....I pray that we one day find that loving, honest and lasting relationship. You deserve happiness...remember that.

I know what u mean, those kind of things ran through my mind constantly, I thought it would never stop hurting, but it will get better over time.
I think of all the days I stood in line for hours to mail a package to my husband in Iraq, I remember spending Christmas crying w/ my kids and worrying about him only to find he spent Christmas w/ his girlfriend, he wasn't thinking of us. I thought I wasted 20yrs of my life on him, but I didn't, I have 5 amazing children and the wonderful times we had he can't take away.