Two weeks ago I received an email from my wife. We have been married for 13 years and I truly thought everything was great. We have a great life, beautiful children and have been working together for the same future. My wife is deployed to Iraq and she sent me the I love you but I'm not in love with you letter that so many here seem to have gotten in one form or another. It would be an understatement to say that I was devastated. I couldn't accept that this could happen. I pushed and pushed and finally got her to admit that she was haveing an affair with another married man. I don't want a divorce, I just don't know if I can make this work. She says that after I found out and forced the issue that she has broken off the affair but that her heart is broken. For God's sake, they only know each other for 2 months and he is married but she was able to develop deep enough feelings for him that me forceing the issue has broken her heart? What the hell can I do. I love my wife and I want to make this work, but every time I close my eyes, all I can see is the two of them together. I don't know how I am going to survive this. I am a loveing father and have always tried to be a good husband. I don't drink or have any vices. I have devoted my life to making our family and her career successful. To make matters worse, her father lives with us and I can't show any of the pain that I feel show to our kids. Someone please help.
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