My wife told me fairly abruptly at the beginning of June that she wanted a divorce and I was completely devastated. Now don't get me wrong I have made mistakes in our marriage and I have my flaws but I have always been a loving husband who absolutely adored his wife and made an effort everyday to do something to make her feel special so to go from having some issues to divorce without trying a single thing to make our marriage work just didn't register for me. I gave up my career 5 years ago to be a stay at home dad so she could pursue her career and I recently started a wedding photography business on top of being a stay at home dad which was a couple years away from being a profitable enterprise but I now have to give that up to find a job because she has told me I have until the end of August to move out and I need a steady income. She sent Our two boys 4 and 6 to spend the summer with grandparents in California and since they left she has been going out living it up with friends while I am left alone at home lonely, heartbroken and miserable. Last Saturday night she told me at 9:30PM that she was going to spend the night with one of her friends and like the fool I am I believed her well her car is broke right now so she took mine and then the other day when I was trying to find my way home I entered the previous destinations in my cars GPS and found out she spent Saturday night in A motel 150 miles away so that got me suspicious so I got ahold of her phone and found a text message to a friend where she bragged about having crazy hot sex Saturday night and of course I was crushed because we are still married god the paperwork hasn't even been filed yet. All this being said god help me I still love her very much and don't want my family torn apart by a divorce. Am I a weak Pathetic person for still loving her and wanting to be with her? Don't get me wrong I am very angry but I could probably forgive her and move on and if I can forgive her for something this huge why can't she forgive me from my mistakes which pale in comparison? Also I haven't confronted her yet but I left little hints that I know and I am fairly certain she knows that I know so should I confront her? If so how? Sorry for the long post and thanks for the help.
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