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This one describes it pretty well:
Solitary Confinement
Definition: Nobody comes over, the silence is deafening, I have 1 friend who lives within 200 miles, even the TV doesn't work, I'm bored as hell, I'm so desperate for company that I'd PAY someone to come over and just do anything--even just if they came over and read a damn book here!
If I had any more sleeping pills, I'd take them just to sleep off the boredom. I can't find ANYTHING to do except sit in front of this computer and tend to my 10+ personal ads that I have out there (nobody is viewing them anyways, so what's the difference)
I don't want to bug my stbx too much because I don't want to push her away the rest of the way. I tried to call her this morning and she texted me back saying she was at work (which is expected). I texted her to "call me later if you want" Of course, I got no call--not a surprise.
I just tried to call a girl whom I met slightly before my stbx just to catch up on things. Her and I used to talk on the phone all the time. She called back a few minutes later and was downright RUDE to me, telling me she's with her fiance and it was not a good time to talk--with the tone of voice saying "lose my phone number." Got it... Let's see.... Phonebook: 2 Numbers (my stbx and my married best friend, literally).
Last week, I took a new picture of me--even went out and bought some new clothes for the occasion. It's attached to my profile here. I thought it was pretty good. The reviewers on one of the dating sites said I look "unkept" and "pot bellied" and "receeding hairline." They said to lose the picture--it's terrible. Be honest--what do you think of the profile picture?
My dating profiles tend to target someone a little younger than me, but not robbing the cradle. I've had profiles up on sites since I was about 26 years old. And, other than my stbx, I got almost no "real" responses, other than negatives. I'm seriously considering hiring a professional profile writer and paying $$$$$ for professional dating pictures. Am I crazy????
Solitary Confinement
Definition: Nobody comes over, the silence is deafening, I have 1 friend who lives within 200 miles, even the TV doesn't work, I'm bored as hell, I'm so desperate for company that I'd PAY someone to come over and just do anything--even just if they came over and read a damn book here!
If I had any more sleeping pills, I'd take them just to sleep off the boredom. I can't find ANYTHING to do except sit in front of this computer and tend to my 10+ personal ads that I have out there (nobody is viewing them anyways, so what's the difference)
I don't want to bug my stbx too much because I don't want to push her away the rest of the way. I tried to call her this morning and she texted me back saying she was at work (which is expected). I texted her to "call me later if you want" Of course, I got no call--not a surprise.
I just tried to call a girl whom I met slightly before my stbx just to catch up on things. Her and I used to talk on the phone all the time. She called back a few minutes later and was downright RUDE to me, telling me she's with her fiance and it was not a good time to talk--with the tone of voice saying "lose my phone number." Got it... Let's see.... Phonebook: 2 Numbers (my stbx and my married best friend, literally).
Last week, I took a new picture of me--even went out and bought some new clothes for the occasion. It's attached to my profile here. I thought it was pretty good. The reviewers on one of the dating sites said I look "unkept" and "pot bellied" and "receeding hairline." They said to lose the picture--it's terrible. Be honest--what do you think of the profile picture?
My dating profiles tend to target someone a little younger than me, but not robbing the cradle. I've had profiles up on sites since I was about 26 years old. And, other than my stbx, I got almost no "real" responses, other than negatives. I'm seriously considering hiring a professional profile writer and paying $$$$$ for professional dating pictures. Am I crazy????
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
The problem is that I really don't like to do anything except boring, home things that involve nobody else. And right now, those things aren't too appealing. All of my hobbies pretty-much revolve around the computer or electronics.
I did those things before with no problem, because I knew that every day, my stbx was coming home and even if we didn't get to do much together because she often went to bed early, I still had the security that I was not alone and my companion was here.
This may sound strange, but I recently met this girl (a stripper--I know--not the best company, but she does listen) and the day after my stbx came back to America (and NOT to me), her and I went out to breakfast. It was refreshing just to have somebody there. I was actually thinking of just inviting her over the house just to keep me company (nothing sexual--no touching--nothing like that--keep her clothes ON). I haven't been involved with a stripper in a LONG time (over 10 years) and I know it's bad news, but at least she is a warm body who is physically present.
It's amazing how LITTLE there is to do in South Florida for singles!!!!
You keep setting yourself up for heartache. Are you doing this on purpose?
http://www.meetup.com/
-- not for dating for new friends and hobbies.
Dating sites are not the answer--I know that. I've NEVER had good luck with them. People are judging you on a very narrow view and to be honest, I think most people would like me if they just took the time to get to know me a little bit! But, I have no earthly idea how to meet people down here. Everywhere I go, I'm "invisible" and nobody even acknowledges that I'm there.
From my profile picture, does it have anything to do with what I look like? Please be honest. I trust you guys.
But, the singles meetups for South Florida seem to consist of people older than I am who really aren't even the slightest interested in meeting other people--just doing things. I'm not expecting to find a match instantly, but I was looking around and talking to people and it seems that some of the women actually are part of these groups because they DON'T get picked up there! One of my problems is that I'm physically 36, but I'm about 25 at heart. (and my body is around 50, unfortunately).
I'd be interested in joining a singles group that caters to a slightly younger crowd, but I have not found one.
I've done the 10-minute dating thing several times, with no success AT ALL. (all before my stbx).
There's of course the bar and club scene, which I have been trying with--I've been going to clubs about once a week. My best friend's husband plays in a bar band and I go out with them about once a month. Been doing this for quite a while. But, still, nothing. My best friend has gotten me back into roller skating (been 3 times in the last month) but, there, either they're 45+ or they're 15--we're about the only ones in our age group there!
Where's a good place to meet singles other than church, "the supermarket" (tried that, but my area is a bit geriatric), the bar, or clubs?
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Isn't this what this site is for, venting?
To answer the last question in your post; you are not crazy. But if you choose to spend good money in that fashion, I would consider it foolish. But, that's just my opinion.
Maybe take those funds and visit a doctor and get some meds to help you through this. THAT is NOT the solution. It is only the first step to getting there. Either you come out of your comfort zone into the world with everyone else or you medicate yourself to the point of tolerating where you are. Your choice. No pressure. No judgement.
Best wishes and good luck.
Thanks--some of those I knew about and a couple things I saw there are new to me. I'll check them out.
To give you an idea, one of the places mentioned there is Gryphon Club (it's a dance club). One of my clients actually owns that place and he lets me in there for free. I've been there the last 3 weekends, but not a single bite or even a "hello."
BTW, lotsofevents was actually discussed at one of the meetup events I went to (a few of us were talking about it). Purposely, the site does not list prices. This is because it costs $1500 and a couple of the people there used it and said meetup (which is mostly free or "cost") actually was much better in terms of people, # of events, quality of events, etc. They considered it a waste of money. Just a warning for anyone considering it...
Still no comments on my picture? I'm really curious...
I'm not really judging you, but you and your stbx haven't been broken up all that long...TEN personal ads? Just an observation.
Spend the time, and money, on counseling or whatever things you think might help you feel better about you.