Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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I shouldn't be in this position. My youngest son is so sick that the doctor placed him on a nebulizer. The doctor does not want to have to use steroids because it will make things worse with his blood sugars. Since it is viral, he has placed my son on a nebulizer, Motrin and bed rest. He did take a chest x-ray and is tested for RSV. He is discouraging me from using cough medicine. I am just to let it run its course and do my best to help my son breathe.
I have been grieving this week and I have begun to get back to the anger stage, But today I hate him. I hate that I have to take care of our son while he is this sick alone. (That is not totally true. My parents helped today. I was not alone in the doctor's office. My father came with to help me.) But I go home to all of them by myself. I will be alone tonight monitoring blood glucose numbers, fevers, and putting him on the nebulizer. I will have no help. I will lose even more sleep.
And what is the point of telling STBX that the youngest is sick? He won't reply to the email. He won't ask later in the week if he is getting better. He won't care!! I am here doing what needs to be done as always!! And where is STBX? Getting to go to his martial arts classes, play his xbox 360, and sleeping as late as he wants. SCREAM!!!
I do have our older kids though. My oldest has brought me several cups of tea without my asking and has given me hugs. They have all sat and watched Madagascar 2 three times in a row because it is what my youngest wants. They all are getting a kick out of the fact that the nebulizer looks like a panda bear. So they are my rays of sunshine in all of this.
I am still seeing red when it comes to STBX though. I could give him several pieces of my mind tonight.
--Sara
I have been grieving this week and I have begun to get back to the anger stage, But today I hate him. I hate that I have to take care of our son while he is this sick alone. (That is not totally true. My parents helped today. I was not alone in the doctor's office. My father came with to help me.) But I go home to all of them by myself. I will be alone tonight monitoring blood glucose numbers, fevers, and putting him on the nebulizer. I will have no help. I will lose even more sleep.
And what is the point of telling STBX that the youngest is sick? He won't reply to the email. He won't ask later in the week if he is getting better. He won't care!! I am here doing what needs to be done as always!! And where is STBX? Getting to go to his martial arts classes, play his xbox 360, and sleeping as late as he wants. SCREAM!!!
I do have our older kids though. My oldest has brought me several cups of tea without my asking and has given me hugs. They have all sat and watched Madagascar 2 three times in a row because it is what my youngest wants. They all are getting a kick out of the fact that the nebulizer looks like a panda bear. So they are my rays of sunshine in all of this.
I am still seeing red when it comes to STBX though. I could give him several pieces of my mind tonight.
--Sara
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I'm glad you have your parents and older children to help you.
Unfortunately, no one can make your husband grow up and be a decent parent.
Many hugs,
Lynne
He will pay dearly in the long run. Continue to lean on your parents, older children, and friends. Hugs and prayers to you and your son.
It sounds like though, those kids you have are really all pulling together to help make things easier in general. While he may be sleeping late, playing his stupid video games, etc. you all are pulling together, bonding and experiencing something he never will be able to. It just shows all the love you have instilled in the kids and how much they have for each other and their mom.
So when you get tired and frustrated, just remember this moment and all the other moments where you have been able to experience the closeness and love of each other.
I hope your son gets better soon.