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I found out who he has been seeing

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Ok, I am new here so let me explain. I have been with my stbx for 14 years, married 10 1/2 years. We have a son that is 9 and a daughter that will 7 on Dec 20th. On October 26, 2007 ( on our 10 1/2 year aniv) he told me that he wanted a divorce. The reasoning he gave me was that his family thought that I was a bytch, rude and that they hated me, plus that I let the dog in the house. Everyone thought that he was seeing someone, well today I got my confirmation. I found out who she was and where she works. Well she works for the school district that my kids are in. She is getting a divorce from her hubby whom cheated on her. So, my questions is how do I handle all of this (new for me). I was wondering why he would never call or spend time with the kids. Well now I know. One good thing is that he heard the pissed of side of me and now knows that I know everything.

Marti
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Don't let his cruelty alter what you have to do to protect yourself and your kids. Get a lawyer and ask for temporary support. BTW, call every lawyer in your area. That will narrow down his choices.
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When he asked me for a divorce I got on the phone (on a Sunday) and found a lawyer and had one by that Monday. He left for work, I went through every file we have and walked in my lawyers office with everything. Every deed, every IRS return, Cattle deed, deed to the ranch, title to the truck, the 6 wheeler, his checks. I mean I walked in there with everything. I have (well my lawyer) has the one pc of ammo that can really hurt him. His ass is mine, but in the mean time I am gonna be as nice as possible. I am in the house that we built until the divorce is over. I have another house that I can go to and not have to pay rent. All I have to pay is electric. For once I am trying to keep a level head. Use to, she would already be hurting. But I have kids and they have to come first. I will protect my kids like a momma bear.

I am so glad that I have found this site. All of ya'll have help me out a bunch. Talking about it has really helped me get alot of anger out. Thank you so much.

Marti
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