She was in pain cause her husband had been cheating on her,, so she turned around and cheated with a married man, causeing pain to an innocent? GOD,, this makes no sense to me! I am so sorry for you!
Big hugs!

Thank you. Forgot to say that also for the past month 1/2 he has not spent any time or helped me with the kids. Thank you for the support. I need it now. Just waiting to go to court for the Temp papers

My husband and I also split up on Oct 26th...wow. He said he wasn't happy anymore, but come to find out he was seeing another woman. Who had just gotten a divorce which was final on Oct. 24th. My stbx hasn't called his kids in 5 weeks....so sorry you are going through this...I would not wish this on my worst enemy.

Forgot to add he hasn't sent a dime to help us in the past 5 weeks also...hearing for emergency support on Dec.27th. But actually Fl doesn't consider support an emergency.

You and I are in the same boat. Texas does and as soon as my attonery gets out of court today he is going to call me. I emailed him this morning when I found out that he was seeing someone this whole time. Told him that we need to get this ball rolling, if not I was gonna start rolling on him like a steam roller. Tired of his games. Its time for him to step up because I am ready to pitch.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I t seams to be a common thing here. my husband of 18yrs left11/04 for another woman. We have 4 children who now hate him. Just remember to take care of yourself and your kids they look to you for answers and strenght. Your in my prayers.

I'm so sorry to hear, I hope you find your way to healing and a healthy relationship.

I was married 16 years and have 2 kids, I can relate in many ways, but I believe that I am of a minority here in that my stbx did not cheat (that I know of anyway), there was no indication of it either. But she left me in lou of trying to continue to work through issues. So my best advice to you is you can only do your best to control your actions, so try to do right by you and seek a healthy outlook of yourself and any mate. If you can not get him to attempt to work things out (if that is what you want), move on, find healing, be fair to him even if he is not to you that will make a world of diffence to your kids.

I'm sorry for your pain, yell scream, vent here whatever it takes so you can face him and kill him with kindness, then his guilt should help make it easier in making it fair to you and your kids.

Sorry for what you found out. Talking from experience it does not matter what you say or whom you say it to. They will do what they want and don't care who gets hurt in the end.

Hugs and love to you, Marti. I know some of your pain. Just TRY to find constructive outlets for your anger and take the high road. Don't let your anger get the best of YOU. Hang in there girl! The best revenge is living well.

With the added info you provided, I would also say file the papers for divorce then so you can start the process and get the financial support for your kids. I'm so sorry for your kids too, he obviously does not really care, his actions are speaking very loudly there.

Keep good records in case he turns around and fights for custody.

We are here to lend you any strength we can, again I'm sorry to hear about this, no one deserves to be treated like that.

I have kept a journal from day one when he told me he wanted a divorce. It has everytime he was in town and didnt see the kids. Just about everyday says no phone call to kids and no money. I have every time he has left the house drinking, when he has gone out partying. All of it and now I have on there whom he has been cheating with and for how long.

Thank you all for your support. It really does help me. I needed some place to let it all out. Still not all out. But I will get there

I'm so sorry that you are going through this...I've been there...and still there in some ways. My x left...by my choice after I got sick of his abuse of substances. I suspected cheating but really didn't believe it until I found out FOR SURE a couple weeks after our separation. Best thing to do is to be there for your kids the best that you can...it's been 10 months since my separations and my x has only spent quality time with them once...and broke the no drug addict gf court order. They are dealing with it, I suppose and I keep them busy. Good luck...

I knew who she was and that there was something going on before he asked for the divorce. After that, I emailed her at work (they work together) and basically told her what she was getting and also told her she should be 'pro woman' and not go after another woman's husband (not taking any of his guilt away of course), He is living with her now, moved from our home to hers, and as far as I understand from my lawyer (I'm in TX too) it really won't matter much. And I contested the divorce, he filed insupportability, I counterfiled, adultery, cruelty and insupportability, but it none of that matters, then why pay the exorbitant fees, when it looks like I won't get much of anything out of it. And as they say, "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", but just rise above and he will get his and she will too!

Wow mine left oct 29. just keep your kids the top priority. It sounds like he has made a big mistake. What goes around comes around

My stbx has not provided any support other than continuing to pay daughter's meager school tuition (couldn't get out of the automatic debit). Not seeing her at all. He refuses. Have taken her over to the house (the house that I knew he'd only leave FEET FIRST on a coroner's gurney, so I had to move out). He stands there like a statue, refuses to hug her. She said, 'why doesn't Daddy even smile at me?' 9 years old and he shits on her. Talked to him this weekend and basically said, Be a MAN and don't do this to your daughter. I am trying so hard to keep him in her life but for what? He doesn't deserve to be a dad. Yet I still feel every kid benefits from two parents. (someone smack me). Still no response- no call to her in 4 months. So you know what? I am going to SLAM him in court. Can you say Boot Up Your Ass? At first I didn't want anything from him- but in retrospect, I need to start over for my daughter- and were it not for his shitty behavior it wouldn't have to be this way. Karma will in fact bite him squarely in the ass.