
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Ok, I am new here so let me explain. I have been with my stbx for 14 years, married 10 1/2 years. We have a son that is 9 and a daughter that will 7 on Dec 20th. On October 26, 2007 ( on our 10 1/2 year aniv) he told me that he wanted a divorce. The reasoning he gave me was that his family thought that I was a bytch, rude and that they hated me, plus that I let the dog in the house. Everyone thought that he was seeing someone, well today I got my confirmation. I found out who she was and where she works. Well she works for the school district that my kids are in. She is getting a divorce from her hubby whom cheated on her. So, my questions is how do I handle all of this (new for me). I was wondering why he would never call or spend time with the kids. Well now I know. One good thing is that he heard the pissed of side of me and now knows that I know everything.
Marti
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I was married 16 years and have 2 kids, I can relate in many ways, but I believe that I am of a minority here in that my stbx did not cheat (that I know of anyway), there was no indication of it either. But she left me in lou of trying to continue to work through issues. So my best advice to you is you can only do your best to control your actions, so try to do right by you and seek a healthy outlook of yourself and any mate. If you can not get him to attempt to work things out (if that is what you want), move on, find healing, be fair to him even if he is not to you that will make a world of diffence to your kids.
I'm sorry for your pain, yell scream, vent here whatever it takes so you can face him and kill him with kindness, then his guilt should help make it easier in making it fair to you and your kids.
Keep good records in case he turns around and fights for custody.
We are here to lend you any strength we can, again I'm sorry to hear about this, no one deserves to be treated like that.
Thank you all for your support. It really does help me. I needed some place to let it all out. Still not all out. But I will get there