My Stbx made plans to see both the kids tomorrow. He was going to have my oldest son's car fixed- and while they were waiting he was going to take the older and younger to lunch. Both of their birthday's are this month. I told my eldest not to make any plans, as the car does need to be serviced and his dad offered (unusual) and it felt a little like he was reaching out; although it was my suggestion he take them to lunch. My oldest son just called and canceled on him. This made me a little angry and I told him so. He texted me and said he was sorry, but he has been working a lot this week and staying up late doing homework (he is a good kid)- and the last thing he wanted to do was spend the day with that man. He said he did appreciate the fact that he seemed to be trying (superficially), but that he had no desire to see him. You have to know that my husband put him in the middle of his affair. He is the one that discovered it and was told it was none of his business and he would tell me when he was ready. This forced my son to keep the secret for 3 months until I found out about it myself. I feel bad for my son. I want him to have a relationship with his father, but he is 18. I can not make him. If his father were to apologize sincerely for what he has done- maybe they could have a relationship. But, he has not and can not apparently. I even feel bad for my husband. I do not think he knows what he is throwing away. Not sure what I am asking. I guess I am just saddened by this whole thing. It hurts me to think of what they are both missing out on. Thanks for listening.
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