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i feel i'll never love again

deleted_user
deleted_user
how many of you out there right now feel there is no way you'll ever love someone again. i feel that way. i am so hurt and so angry and sad and emothionally exhausted that i just dont think i can do any of this again. but then stbx seems to think he has grown already and accepted this already and i think he is even emotionally , maybe not physically yet, involved with the ex girlfriend of years ago who now lives across the street. ugh! she called this m orning at around 11:28. that was only 1 hour after i left for church and my moms house. i bet she can hardly wait to reel him him , like she has her several others she 's been with and burnt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can understand. It's natural to want to protect yourself from that same pain again. My situation is killing me inside, but I'm trying not to look at all women the same. Point being you can and maybe should find love again, just make sure you love yourself more.
GregF
GregF
I wonder whether I can. My ex asked for a divorce because she thought I was having an affair or that would have an affair. In the ten months since the divorce was finalized, I tried once to meet someone but it was devastating because I just wasn't ready yet. There was so much damage done to me emotionally and such a low level of belief in me being a good H that it has really caused me to question whether I could be.

BTW, my father had numerous affairs (more than a dozen) and I am like him in so many other ways.

I just don't want to get into another relationship where I am going to ruin someone else's life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh I'm a lover. It's what I do. No one will take that away from me. I can try to be careful in the future but how can you be careful about love?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Never again. At this point, I don't want to get close to anyone. I feel as if it's me and my dog. It hurts and I have to say my love for myself right now isn't so great either. I thought I was really good to him, but it seems not so much. Oh this sounds pathetic, sorry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am a lover too and I will love again. I will be very scared of getting hurt again though. But I guess love is a risk and a chance you take, but it's worth the risk.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it isnt that i wonder if i'll ever be able to love again..its that i question whether or not i'll be loved again..its so funny..this time last year i said i would never get involved, would never marry again but a year later and i feel totally alone.
Che2
Che2
I think we all felt that way at some point. It's been a year for me and I am in love again. I highly recommend it..when you are ready.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sometimes I feel that way too. Honestly, if I think about it all too much, I start to feel like I'm just not meant to be with anyone at all.

I'm hoping this feeling will pass eventually, but for now I'm happy being alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know that I'll love again...but right now, I'm learning to love myself, embrace life and appreciate the people in my life. I want to be secure with myself and my life before I allow someone back in my life on such an intimate level again, and I am confident that it will happen again, but I'm just not in a hurry to get to that destination.
deleted_user
deleted_user
God willing I will love again. I may be a little more selective this time around though.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I stick with the saying: It is better to have love and lost than to live with a psycho the rest of your life. I know that loving another is possible again but, the trust part is what troubles me.
solongbye
solongbye
I think that a lot of us felt that way, especially after suffering for years in our marriages or being betrayed by our spouses. Last year I swore I would never fall in love again..now I swear I will never be in love with him again. The future looks brighter, I am wiser and choosier this time around.
deleted_user
deleted_user
she sounds like a predator. I would be very uncomfortable if one of his EX's lived across the street when we were together/

I have to say that I do believe you will someday love again. There is a healing process that you HAVE to go thru before you are ready to give yourself to another person. If you don't heal first - you are cheating yourself and the other person.

IMHO - people who bounce from one serious relationship to another are pretty empty inside and just looking for someone to complete them. You have to be complete in yourself first!
deleted_user
deleted_user
even though i'm passed through some of what your going through now, i feel the same way sometimes, i'll never find someone, but you know what, thats ok, as long as i love myself, respect myself, and build a life of happiness, i'll be ok being alone, i'm blessed to have four wonderful adult children, 1 beautiful grandson, other family and great friends, also my friends on ds.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel that way too... sometimes I feel no one with love me, other times I feel like I don't want to ever be open for this kind of hurt again.... I don't know which is more reasonalbe, if either of them are or what? I just wish I had some idea of how my life is going to turn out... what life has in store for me, if somehow this pain was to prepare me for a greater love in the future maybe? That would be nice....
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