Hang in there Pamela...Try and stay busy, find things to make yourself happy. Asking for support helps as well.

I was were you are now. It takes time and strength. There is a light at the end of that tunnel...really!

Hey, this is from your era, too. I hope this brightens your day, if not maybe a walk if the weather permits. I feel the same way most days, sweetie. Chin up:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=n1sZLSO9va0&feature=related

Most of my days are like yours, I do have moments of feeling OK but then the depression sets in again. I also get very angry and myself for missing her. I said this last night to my sister, "Why the F, can't I stop loving her and missing her and she is already moved on and playing head games, why do I still care???" We all go through this. But hang in there and keep coming back here for support.

It's like I cannot get air, suffocating.
Anxiety is severe.

pam, i know exactly how you feel, i'm just 4 months into it, and i have good and bad days. don't be pissed at yourself for missing him, it's whats in your heart and it's going to take (i know you don't want to hear it) time. keep coming here and reading the posts. we are all at different stages. some faster than others, some not. please don't give up.

It will get easier in time. Hang in there and keep the faith. I know that is easier said than done but this is just a stage you have to go through. I remember feeling the same way and it does pass. I promise you will make it.

It's like when my son died, the pain is so deep, so wrenching, so constant. I want to run somewhere, but you can't run from pain.

Hang in there! I have and still feel that way. Things will get better. I have had my wife cheat on me, ask for the divorce, loos my house to foreclosure, and just last night loose my favorite Aunt. The last of the elders. I have till the 28th of this month to be out of my house, find a new place to rent, find homes for my pets. on top of this my first ever being alone for the holidays. It can and will be a rough road but we will make it! Find something to keep you busy. Church is always a good option. Least I have found it to be. Look for divorce support groups in your area to attend. Being around people that are going through the same thing is good medicine. Folks her are also great! Your in my prayers. Know, that your not alone and we all are shedding tears for our hurt. Even us men. No one is beyound the paint of divorce here.

You are a caring loving HUMAN being. some one just hit you with a f#$#@$ fright train. It's going to hurt and the pain is intense. We all feel that Pain. You are suppose to hurt. You are suppose to feel sad. It sucks but it's the reality of it. Cry when you want, feel what ever you feel each and every day. Work hard on letting the relation ship go. Take care and hang on for the ride of your life.

Joe,
That's the problem, I don't want to let go.

Its hard,
Trust me having no friends no one to talk to and no having my grandfather in the hospital again with cancer and hearing that he only has days to live makes it even harder. You just have to take it one day at a time now. I know its hard as hell to do. But be strong and you will get through this. Love is a very powerful thing. It can make you hurt make you cry make you feel so many different things all at one time. It can get very confusing at times. But the people here are all in the same boat as you and I. It will get better in time. Be strong.

I am so sorry this is so soul depleting at first. It robs you of all your energy to the point that it is an effort to move at times. BUT you will regain your strength and you will evolve into a person that can handle anything that life decides to throw at you.

What you are going through stinks, but it is a normal reaction. Try to do what you can. Surround yourself with people who understand what you are going through. Don't isolate yourself. Force yourself to go outside, go for a walk, just get out.

Everybody here at DS is wonderful and you will get help from people who have been there and understand you.

You will survive this and find happiness again. Don't give up.