I have been trying to get away from my husband, it seems like for years.
Every time I leave he dose something to put me back. Some how he always pulls the rug out from under my feet.
The last time I left I went to Boston with my 2 girls. My son (17) didn't want to leave his school, so he stayed with dad in Florida. I was gone for a month and a half. I was in a shelter and going to school for my GED and trainning for a new job. My son started calling and telling me my husband was drinking, fighting with him and not buying any food. I tried talking to my son and husband and told them I was doing so well here, if they could please try to work it out. once my husband know I wasn't coming back and he lost me for good this time. He started fight more with my son. He would kick him out and then call the cops on him. I had no choise but to drop " my life long dreams and plans, AGAIN"to run back and save the day.
My husband told me he would move out and give me the apartment, he never left. I have been back for about 2 weeks and he still said he had no where to go.
Last night I went to a cook out at my families house. I told him he could not come, because he will drink to much and start fights with any one that looks at him wrong.
I can home and he was gone. I was happy. I thought he finaly gave up and moved on.
NOPE! He was in jail.

The thing is him and I was saving money for rent. I don't know how he got so backed up on rent in one month, but he did.

When I was gone the lights got shut off, so all the food in the frig went bad. He never got more food. When I got back there was nothing. I had some money left over when I got back here and got more, but he sits there and eats one loaf of bread with each meal.

He will lose his job because he has no CDL and more, he can't drive.
To make a long story short, I'll be stuck with him again because he will need help, AGAIN.

just trying to help...but you can go to the local catholic or methodist church and they help with food...

You are not obligated to help him in this situation. You should worry about you and the kids.
I know it's easy for me to say, I'm not is your shoes. I realize that. But your a family in crisis now and you and the kids have to come first. Let his hinney sit in jail, dont't save the day.
Save yourself and your children. I just can't say it enough.

I agree with 4boys - leave him in jail. Maybe go back to Boston and try to regain what you lost. Also, if your 17 year old son thinks living in Fla. w/ this man is better, I would ask him to go to Boston for a trial period. Good luck!! Also, it is easy for me to sit here and give advice. You are the one who has to make a decision, then live with it. You're in my prayers!~P

It wouldn't make any difference to go back to Boston. The day I left the shelter they told me I could not go back for more help for at least one year.

I will get through this. It's just every time I get knock down by life, its gets hard to to get up.

Thank you all for being here for me. It realy dose help.

Have you tried going to the salvation army? They help people out with food, bills, etc... I was born a church member of the salvation army and have been all 30 yrs of my life. I know if you call your local one they could point you in the right direction. (((HUGS)))

Thank you all for your help