Hang in there. You will not be alone. You are plenty young to find love still. If it helps, I found my first grey hair when I was 17. I am very fortunate that my sister is a beautician and owns her own salon. Gotta love discount color!

I would rather grow old alone then with the wrong guy. Especially one who treats me like crap

I am sorry saddy. You will not grow old alone if that is not want you want.

(BTW I am 31 and I have a HUGE grey patch on my right side. Been growing for about a year and spreading!!!!)

Hey girl. I think most of us feel or have felt the same way at some point during the separation/divorce times. It will truly get better for you and I believe that the "right one" is out there waiting for you to meet. I feel the way you do often, but other times I am very optimistic. It will happen for you.

I'm sorry your going thru this. You aren't alone by far. I was feeling sorry for myself, because the guys that are asking me out would be like adding another child into the mix instead of an equal partner.

I've decided to just live my life and be as happy as I possibly can and if someone comes along to add something to MY life then so be it. :0) Take Care

Well, girl, I'm 51, and just lately I'm starting to get excited about the fact that for the first time in my life, I may actually like being alone, without the hassle and work of living with a sociopath. I've never felt so alone as I did when I was married, without any real support from him, so I have to ask myself, "What am I going to miss?" He was never really there when I needed him. Besides, I also think I'm at my sexual peak, lol, so I'm going to enjoy it :) I think things will actually get better for you. Have faith in yourself~~~

I am now 46-happened this month while I was scrambling to find a house. I don't have time to worry about being "old" right now...and noone has treated me "old" since stbx and I broke up. hehehe

For the record-underneath all these layers of color, I am 80% white. It is a genetic thing, my brother is a year younger-much darker skinned and Very gray/white.

Menopause??? Surgical in 1999, still have the ovaries, they did kick back in after almsot a year. However, those wonderful hot flashes still hit.

I think that I was about 35 when I went to bifocals.

Wow...maybe I AM old :-O

I am choosing to believe I will not be alone in the future. For now its okay - time for me to grow and get back to who I really am - age wise 48 - most days feel good, actually better than I have in years - my eyes are telling me I'm getting old, but the rest of me i okay, in fact my leather jacket has more squeaks and groans then my joints at this point.

Oh no guess you might as well buy the wheelchair and black veil since you are obviously too old to love.I mean with glasses and "2" gray hairs combined with menopause you are done for.Right?Get real!!!!!

I got the glasses, bits of gray (that only my hairdresser see's) and a perscription of Premarin by my bedside, but age is a state of mind! enjoy life. The say 40 is the new 30... =)

Some time alone to reflect on who you are as a person and allowing your self to heal is a really good idea. I am 35 and I still wonder what would happen if I were never to remarry or find a companion of some sort. It's a very real fear for me even though I have two children. I still want someone to spend time and make memories with. And of course theres the pillow talk...you are not alone.

Im 47 in 2 months - lots of grey under the colour - and the drinking Ive done in the past year because of my husband has aged my skin. I didnt have children because he already had one and didnt want another and his mother said he shouldnt! My neighbour has 3 little children and her home feels alive and warm and mine feels dead and barren like me. But then look at some children who grow up and turn their backs on parents or move to the other side of the world, you cant guarantee that children will be there for you when you are old. I lived my life through my work and my husband and now I think it is time to make my own life and I hope this brings some colour and warmth back into my home, when I start inviting friends around - and get a lodger who comes at the weekend, a 30 year old friend. My dogs keep me going too...and not having my usband telling me how eveyrone hates me and how I ruined his life, every day, watching nothing but golf on the tv...and walking out the door to go to the pub so I felt dumped every day...I dont miss that.

imhealing points out that she never felt so alone as when she was married. I felt the same way, and I think it's the worst kind of loneliness.

I in fact enjoy being alone now, because to experience in a marriage heartache where there should have been joy, anomosity where their should have been frinedship, deceipt where there should have been trust, celibacy where there should have been intimacy, was too much to bear year after year. When you are alone, there is at least the hope to achieve these things. When you are alone in a failed marriage, you are trapped with no hope in sight.

Pursuing your interests while single, or developing new ones, will help you to achieve some hapiness and inner peace. This in turn will lead to self confidence - and people, namely guys, will notice.

For me, I'm 48 and starting over. I had the same feelings, horrible feelings, of dying alone in some decrepid apt, being found a week or so later by the stranger next door. But now I'm in the best shape of my life - I've joined a community symphonic band, take yoga (I never would have 20 yrs ago) and I'm meeting new people. Who knows, I hear of 90 yr old men fighting off the ladies in nursing homes - perhaps that will be me.
See you there? We'll go for a walk with our walkers!
Hang in there, there is hope.

I hope 40 is the new 30!!
turning 40 next year only been with one man stbx turned out to be a big liar.

Thinking once divorce is final i might try all the flavors!!! LOL

But love will be tough, love is hard