My name is ian, and my divorce was just finalized. We have two little girls and have been seperated for a year and a half. I'll give you some background, although I don't know if anyone cares. We met in 1994, 16 years ago. We were married 10 years. I never once cheated. I never abused her. We had what seems everyone wants in "four bedroom house in a nice suburb". We worked in the same business as her mom and stepdad. Her stepdad wasn't a part of our life or business until the end of our marriage, and to be honest me and him never got along. We were suppose to buy the business from her mom (and stepdad), and it turned out my ex-wife stole $20,000 from the business. In short, I was blamed by the police, but she is on tape as admitting to it. And to be quite honest as this is an anonymous board, I REALLY did not take any money. I was arrested for it. One day she admitted it to me. I went to a doctors appointment, and when I came home, she and the kids left and , were gone out of state and I had a "dear john" letter saying she couldn't be with me anymore. At the advice or her mother and sister, she filed for divorce from me. I have heard everything from "i stole her youth", "I can't be trusted", "its not you, it's me", "everyone does it, this is normal", and finally "we've been seperated, there's no reason to try". I see the kids every wednesday and every other weekend. I stick to that strongly and try to provide normalcy. During her weekends with the kids, she leaves them ALL WEEKEND with family, friends, so she can go out. During my weekends, she goes out. Last night I was upset because I was sleeping with the girls, and she text me that she has a new boyfriend, they were out partying, and she would be staying at his house this weekend. She belittles me and calls me a whiny bitch when I ask why the kids bags are never packed correctly when they come visit me (no "blankie" the kids are use to sleep with, no toys). She writes deragatory comments about me on facebook. All our friends are hers now, and I have none. I have gone back to school to get another degree in something I love and will pay better money. When I try to find closure on my end to move on, she closes up and turns off her phone. I almost feel like I want an apology, or i'm sorry this didn't work out. However, she laughed at the divorce proceedings while I cried. In the divorce I gave her the house and everything she wanted. She hit me with the "that's because you won't have to pay as much child support" BS. I pay my child support. I don't know what's going on or what to do?
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