
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I am blessed.
I probably will end up divorced but even if so I believe that we will stay in each others lives and I will never have to let go of my best friend, he will be there when I need him and the other way around. He is the man I married and love, the man I know. Not the cold monster that cheated and lied and abandoned without feelings, the person I had to face for a couple of horrible months, the man I couldn't trust and didn't understand.
We still have some tough times ahead of us, will have more fights and more hurt feelings. I still want him back and he still wants to get out. I can predict some things and have no clue about other things for the future. It is going to hurt but there will also be more laughs and comfort ahead of us.
We are starting to understand each other and what huge mistakes we both have made. Maybe we cant overcome them as a couple and knowing us we might have to get away from each other for some time although I hope not, to heal ourselves and get on with our lives separately. I cant save our marriage alone, we both need to believe it's possible and he is not there in his mind. That scares me, but I also know that we care too much for each other to ever let go completely. We are family of sorts - tied to each other with more than just a marriage and passion.
This is my husband and I didn't marry a stranger.
I'm blessed.
I probably will end up divorced but even if so I believe that we will stay in each others lives and I will never have to let go of my best friend, he will be there when I need him and the other way around. He is the man I married and love, the man I know. Not the cold monster that cheated and lied and abandoned without feelings, the person I had to face for a couple of horrible months, the man I couldn't trust and didn't understand.
We still have some tough times ahead of us, will have more fights and more hurt feelings. I still want him back and he still wants to get out. I can predict some things and have no clue about other things for the future. It is going to hurt but there will also be more laughs and comfort ahead of us.
We are starting to understand each other and what huge mistakes we both have made. Maybe we cant overcome them as a couple and knowing us we might have to get away from each other for some time although I hope not, to heal ourselves and get on with our lives separately. I cant save our marriage alone, we both need to believe it's possible and he is not there in his mind. That scares me, but I also know that we care too much for each other to ever let go completely. We are family of sorts - tied to each other with more than just a marriage and passion.
This is my husband and I didn't marry a stranger.
I'm blessed.
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He isn't someone else anymore, just like I am not the person I've been behaving like the last couple of months. I can finally see why he has done a lot of things the way he has done them. This whole mess is like a chain of events, hurt feelings, guilt, anger and mistakes. Some we could have prevented, some happened because of the persons we are, and some were due to cirumstances out of our control.
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I'm just so incredibly relieved that I didn't waste my life on a stranger like I thought for a while. I know him and he is the man I married and love, with the values, character and mind that I always thought. He is not a monster or a stranger.
So many other people has been/are married to spouses that turned out to be strangers they dont know. Im just so relieved that I'm not.
I just want to clarify one thing. We are NOT by any means in reconciliation or on our way to patch things up. Something just clicked inside me last night. I can UNDERSTAND what has happened to us.
He is NOT a sociopath, notorious liar and cheater, a lowlife scumbag and all the other things I have been suspecting lately.
He IS stubborn, blind, in denial and totally messed up, still involved with OW and plenty of other things that hurts.
I'm just happy that he still is the man I know.