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I cannot wait to be divorced

deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sickened by the fact that I still have to have his last name...I'm disgusted that I have to still refer to myself as married to this s.o.b.

I CANNOT WAIT to be divorced...on my own...NOT part of his f'd up family anymore...WITH MY OWN LAST NAME.

Anyone else feel the same? I mean, I'm super pissed off he has a girlfriend, but at the same time I feel so friggin' sorry for her. To go after a married man, well...you know how that's going to turn out for her. He will cheat on her...he will use her like he used me...he is scum.
patti22
patti22
Right you are.
deleted_user
deleted_user
She's an adult, she knows what she is getting into. As for you, I know it hurts, but once it is done and you are finally free, you will be much stronger than him as he bounces around from rebound to rebound.
Che2
Che2
I felt the same way. I had a knot in my stomach every day that we were still married and he was fooling around. Ate soft food for months. Day I got Divorced..went out to eat and ordered a steak. I was cured.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Imagine how you would feel if you two had children
deleted_user
deleted_user
Use the anger to fuel a great future for yourself.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey can a guy change his last name to her maiden name if she keeps my last name? Now that would be funny.
Hugs Hotpocket...it will happen soon enough.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know I could not wait to be finally divorced from my ex. He disgusts me. I can't even stand to talk to him. However, I did keep his last name, but only for the sake of my children. To me it is just a name and not who I am. Hugs to you Hotpocket.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm right there with you Hotpocket! I am just waiting on him to get his ass in gear and sign the final paperwork. Truly do hate the fact that we are still considered husband and wife. He never saw it that way....
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hotpocket, you are SO right. Yes, when my kids' dad & I divorced, I could NOT wait for it to be DONE!~! I also took my maiden name back & was SO proud to get that part of my life back & let go of the "MISERABLE" life that my X & I had together. Yes, you are probably right, he will use her like he used you. My X told me he would NEVER get remarried again. Well, we were divorced in May '98 & he was living with her BEFORE we were divorced & got married to her in Aug. '98. I'm surprised they are still together. But, he's a truck driver & isn't home much, so that's probably why they can stay together as they don't see each other much LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel the same way,I feel like once the divorce is final I will finally find peace. I am not taking my madien name back because of the kids but that is the only reason. I am still waiting for my reply to my lawyer and then negotitation begins, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope that the OW in my case feels the same hell I have felt over the past 14 years. He is not a nice person and she will see it soon enough.

HUGS to you
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