
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
There's no way to know what's really going on with them. There really isn't.
Maybe things are great. Maybe they aren't.
But in the end, what difference does it make for -you- and your healing?
FIxating on what's going on over there is taking away energy you could be using to move on, to be with your kids, to make your life and theirs the best you possibly can.
You don't need to be giving someone like that power over you. There are much more contructive ways of using that energy than wasting it on someone who's just going to abuse it.
You are not alone.
Regardless of the source though, it's never easy to swallow. Hang in there...
Rest assured sweety, that he will do the same thing to her, that he has done to you! Like I said in an earlier post... pity her, she does not know what she has really gotten herself into!
My youngest son asked me not too long ago, why I don't hate his father's current "lady", cause she hates me.. I told him, that "I" really know his father... I do not bad mouth him to his son, however, my true feelings are I pity her, cause when the "new" wears off, she is in for the pain of her life! (physical and emotional)!
But only a little..
He'll do the same to her as he did to me.
I just hope that it doesn't take her as long to wise up as I did.
Either way, it's not my problem anymore.
Which was the point, really.
You know why he's not going through the ups and downs?
because he's not dealing with it. He's got a shiny new relationship that he dove into.
He's drug all his old crap into it and that alone will taint it.
Be strong verbra.
You deserve to be happy and healthy. you have to mourn your loss in order to be truly ready to move on.
((HUGS))
I suspect yours will be the same. She will not have the happy life you think....but dont bother yourself with thoughts of her...think about yourself. I know it is easier said than done, I cant stop thinking about my husband, I still love him and I want him back. But I am trying to see that he is just the sort of man who cant give emotionally.
We are all hurting for various reasons over the break up of our relationship.
We can go on forever asking why, and why me, how...
now is the time to focus on you, on your children, your future.
Leave her and her life alone, she is not worthy.
Time for you to live.