You just do it....There is no other option. As much as it hurts, you still have a life to live. The good news is that you won't feel like this forever. As hopeless as it may seem right now, you will get through the pain. Sorry you are going through this in your life. There are people all over this site who can help.

One day at a time, that's how...there is no other way. You cannot flip a switch and be ok about something like this.

He won't talk to you then stop contacting him. Only respond when he contacts you or you will push him further away.

You've found a great group to help you through this.

You can and you will if that is how it has to be. It takes time, and is probably the worst thing humans have to endure...the loss of the hopes and dreams and then the figuring out of a way to make sense of it all and move on with your life. You don't have to stop crying...cry until you can't anymore. It's a good thing you have your work for nothing else than to have your thoughts be about something else for a few monents a day. Try and be patient with yourself and don't expect that you should be anywhere other than exactly where you are right now...gather your friends and family for support. It's absolutely devastating right now...it is hard to see the outline of your life when everything has come undone, but it does get better...

So sorry you are feeling this way. It is one of the most difficult things to get through and we all "get it" here. The only advice I can give is to tell you what I did and what worked for me so far.

How do you go to work? You honestly have to talk yourself through it. If you need to take a day off and cry and you can afford to do it? do it. But keep telling yourself, ONE DAY or TWO DAYS or whatever... and then wake up, take a shower, have a cup of coffee, do whatever it is that usually "gets you going" in the morning. Then get in the car, on the train, on the bus... and go. Honestly, I found that keeping as much of your routine as normal as you can is really helpful.

How do you breath? First of all, BREATHE. Honestly, focus on breathing. You need to calm yourself down or nothing will be clear at all and all of your thoughts will be racing and you will feel so overwhelmed. Concentrate on breathing slowly and deeply. It may sound so trivial but this also helped me.

And Misred is right. If he's not contacting you DON'T contact him. He will begin wondering or he won't. He will contact you or he won't. But you may just be pushing him further away by asking him to talk to you. Many of us here have no idea what "he" or "she" is thinking. It's a very difficult thing to deal with... but when you're wondering, talk to us.

I also surrounded myself with supportive people. Friends, family, coworkers... they are there to help you in times like this. And we're here too. Don't ever hesitate to post in a panic, someone's always here to talk to.

The last thing you want to hear right now is that you will get through this. You don't want to hear that until you truly believe it. Unless you want to believe it. But you have to believe all of us when we say... you will get through this. You will feel better. We're all burdened by the evil that is "time".

Best of luck and lots of hugs.

I am going through the same situation. There are times where I don't want to do anything, I cannot focus and I only think he is my happiness. Right now, I am not in tears(I was 15 mins ago), but I promise you later today I will be flooding my tissue box. There are times where you just want to go to work, but you have to remember this time is for you! You go to work for your good. You are going to focus all your attention on you, no need to worry about anyone else. So pick up a new routine before work, listen to music to release some quiet time while you're getting ready so you're mind won't wander straight to him.

I know though, I still worry about my ex, I wonder where he is or who he's with. But the reality is, he may as well be thinking the same about you especially if you stop contacting him. I contacted him today, and I felt so vulnerable, and yes he is mean to me too. The more that he's mean the more that I realize, I am only hurting myself. It will become the same with you, you will realize, "I don't deserve this treatment anymore." You will move on, it takes a while so give yourself time and don't be so hard on yourself!

I'm sorry, I put in my previous post "you just want to go to work" I meant "You just don't want to go to work"

Like the advice that has been given to me by many people here you just have to take one day at a time and find distractions. Things that you maybe never had time to do. My wife left me and after only about a week got involved in another "serious" relationship, yeah it is really hard knowing that not only she is with someone else but that this whole ordeal is really easy for her but you know what as painful as it is I have got start living my life for me. I am back at the gym, I try and do as much with my son as I can and take one day at a time. This really is the best site to find sympathetic ears to vent to. Remember you have some friends on here that will not judge you.

I am right there with you, I swear it is like we are in the exact same position. I am finding this place helpful. I know it is hard, you feel lost,hopeless, broken,I know I am right there with you. I don't want to eat. I toss and turn all night, I have only eat an apple and a banana in 2days, I have moments where I just break down and cry, like late at night in my bed or in my car. It is hard, but I start saying ok just get me through these next few mins and before I know it a few hours have gone by. I can't believe it has almost been a week since my break-up,it feels like minutes ago, but I know that I am getting stronger each passing minute. It is hard for me to not pick up the phone and call or text or email..but I know i have to let my x breathe..check out that list called the 180 it gives advice on how to handle things. It is going to be hard for a little while but we can get through this, we are going to be stronger and start realizing the beauty in things again, keep praying, one foot in front of the other.

I am going through exactly the same situation....but I believe that if someone can put us through this pain....they never loved us as much as we did them. Then they don't deserve what we can give

A) You're not dying, and B) You will live without him unless you choose not to, don't do that.
Yes, it's tough, quite possibly one of the toughest things you will ever do, but you do it because there's no option, you aren't being given a choice.
I'm sorry that you're going through tough times, it gets easier over time, and then tougher, and then easier, and I imagine at some point it just gets easier and stays that way.

Everything in life is a choice. You choose to be happy. You choose to let him get the best of you. You choose to let him be this mean to you. Take a stand for yourself, you KNOW you are a good person & a great wife. Maybe he'll see the strong woman -that you are- and will get his head outta his butt and move with you, not against you. Stay strong ((((HUGS))))

If you feel you can't live without him, ask yourself if you were truly living when you were with him. I know it's harsh, and probably the last thing you want to hear, but you mustn't give up on yourself. Every day will be different and there will be ups and downs, allow yourself time to grieve for what you have lost. You will feel like working again when you're ready, you will feel like socializing again when you're ready, you will eat, sleep and function again normally when you are ready. There are so many people here to support you. Be strong xxx

You have to just wake up every day and remember to breath. You just move on one step at a time.
And, mine was being extremely mean to me. Turns out he was fighting the 'wanting' the other woman. He has her now. And well, good for him for ruining my life.
But YOU just get up and go! You have to. What other choice do you have except to move Up.
Keep posting. You'll be o.k .It will take some time. But you will be good.
((hugs))

YES you can live without him, especially if he is being as much of a jerk as you say he is....you just drag yourself outta bed and go to work...you make yourself breathe....very deep breathes. The person he is deep down inside should be the person he is on the surface. If they aren't, then he isn't the man for you. I know you may not believe this but you are a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman who deserves the utmost of love and respect and if he isn't the one to give it to you then send him packing. Best of Luck to you!!!!!

Oh wow been there done that!! Seven times now with the same guy. Honey there is no break in comitment!! A marriage needs a break?? really?? NO WAY!! He is playing you. Trust me he has his own agenda. Don't take him back and move on. He will do this again if you fall for it and he will promise you everything trust me. Go find a real man who loves you and will love you no matter what. You can live with out him. He is living with out you!! Doesn't sound like he minds it much either. Ask him is loving someone really worth taking a break and what's the break for?? Tell him there is no break in comitment. Good Luck and I know it hurts and they use the break thing to confuse you even more. GREAT BIG HUGS!!