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How do you give someone space when your world pretty much evolves around them and is now falling apart! Everyone says give her space as she needs to sort out some things. Give her time to determine what she wants/needs. What if that means she will get into a relationship to experience whether or not our relationship is what she wants. It kills you inside. And then she says that she believes "our relationship has run it's course". Meanwhile it's all a shock to you and still unable to accept your current predicament, particularly when you have been together for 23 years since you were both 17.
How do you give someone space when you're so afraid you'll lose them and will try everything in your power (legally) to hold on to them and what you used to have. It's easier said then done but I know I need to give her space...it's just HARD!
How do you give someone space when you're so afraid you'll lose them and will try everything in your power (legally) to hold on to them and what you used to have. It's easier said then done but I know I need to give her space...it's just HARD!
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Maybe you should move on. At this point its your choice. Dont let her take that from you too.
I know it is hard, but you need to give her the space she is requesting and in the mean time maybe you can learn something about yourself that you didn't know. Go out there and try new things that you always wanted to do but didn't for some reason or another.
Just think what exactly do you get for keeping someone that dosen't want to be kept. Picture this life. ...
picture it some more, and notice her fake moods, at best or her resentfulness at worse. This is not what u want back you want the good times.
GOD! trust me I know!
But if you have any chance of that in reality and not just your heart, you must not make her feel caged in.
Okay now my question 2 months of plenty of space to the point of my calling her NEVER and she calling me when the kids need somethin or for arbitrary money. I sometimes feel she might think I've givin up. I fought like hell tooth and nail through all kind of attacks, and hurtful information about her BF. How do I know if now i'm loosing her because of my leaving her alone?
Now..onto 'Space'.. I for one is not a fan of 'Space'..
I think 'Space' is code word for
'I am having an affair'
'I met someone and I need to be with them'
Can someone please tell me what the freakin hell 'Space' is?.. besides the Great Unknown... out there.. like in Star Trek.
hey.. I like space.. I love my crowded space now that I am divorced.. as for You and Her.. I think some clarification about this 'Space' is needed.
I suggest you both head off to couple's counselling and let it all out and get some clarification about this 'Space' that she requires.
Other possible factors for 'Space':
Are you abusive to her?
Is she abusive to you?
Have you both grown apart?
Frankly, I think it is code for 'I don't want to be with you anymore... I found someone else'
sorry for my bluntness.. I find 'Space' to be so freakin 'Vague'..lol
If you love something.. set it free.. let it fly out the window and avoid getting shot by a hunter, and if it is yours it will come back to you crap...
wow.. that was a mouthful.. well I don't buy into that sentiment either.
If you want it.. fight for it.. deny the 'Space' and do not let her go, until you both attend couples counselling.