So my stbx wife of 23 years has planned a mystery trip this weekend. Won't tell anyone where she's going. Will, my 21 year old son and 14 year old daughter (and me) all figured she was going to see her 23 year old boy toy who destroyed our marriage (well, him and another guy and booze). She's 50 and the guy lives out of town. When my daughter got home last night she was visibly upset so I called my stbx to find out why. She was upset! She wanted to know why she just can't find happiness! When she was married and miserable everyone was happy but now that she wants to hit the sheets with her paramour everyone's pissed!!! When I explained that her daughter is hurting and going off to see this guy less than 8 weeks after leaving me might make our daughter mad her response was "so if he was 50 it would be okay?" Amazing the selfishness and lack of concern. Her happiness, which can only be found with her boy toy, is paramount. For the first time in 7 weeks I feel the clouds are finally parting. I mourn the loss of our marriage but the woman I married has left the building. It will still be hard but I know now that our splitting up is the best thing for me and my kids. Thanks for listening (or reading)....
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