Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
"The moment I gave him my number is when I decided I was no longer your wife" I responded saying "I don't think its that simple". She went off thinking I meant to make her my wife. I only meant after marriage and 2 children this just feels much to big, to just shake off bye yourself. Somehow we should come to that conclusion not her and some dirt bag.
It's been 2 months, since she left me for another man. 4 weeks since I moved out. She was strongly talking divorce while I was at the house but hasn't uttered the word since. This maybe because we have only had one descent conversation a week ago and about 5 stale ones all together.
I still keep up the lie with associates and service representatives and the kids school teacher and etc. calling her my wife (which stings just a little if u look close there's a barely noticeble flinch). When I talk to my friends and family I seem to fumble over how to refer to her "my wife, ex-wife, ... whatever she is" and soon to be ex also dosn't feel right and it dosn't roll of the tounge.
I was speaking to a co-worker oneday who was asking if I was going to join the team for drinks and I was only joking (its way to early) about if I get drunk and start just hitting on the women from work. She knows the basics of my seperation and she said "your still married" even when I have already been left (although the guy as now mysteriously for the past 3 weeks has been refered to by her as "just a friend" or "its not like that").
Question: Should I just stick to calling her my wife until one of us shoves papers down the others throught, or when much more "TIME" (anybody else learning to hate that word!) passes.
PS Question: Just how stupid that I still have the family portrait up on my desk at work?
It's been 2 months, since she left me for another man. 4 weeks since I moved out. She was strongly talking divorce while I was at the house but hasn't uttered the word since. This maybe because we have only had one descent conversation a week ago and about 5 stale ones all together.
I still keep up the lie with associates and service representatives and the kids school teacher and etc. calling her my wife (which stings just a little if u look close there's a barely noticeble flinch). When I talk to my friends and family I seem to fumble over how to refer to her "my wife, ex-wife, ... whatever she is" and soon to be ex also dosn't feel right and it dosn't roll of the tounge.
I was speaking to a co-worker oneday who was asking if I was going to join the team for drinks and I was only joking (its way to early) about if I get drunk and start just hitting on the women from work. She knows the basics of my seperation and she said "your still married" even when I have already been left (although the guy as now mysteriously for the past 3 weeks has been refered to by her as "just a friend" or "its not like that").
Question: Should I just stick to calling her my wife until one of us shoves papers down the others throught, or when much more "TIME" (anybody else learning to hate that word!) passes.
PS Question: Just how stupid that I still have the family portrait up on my desk at work?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
And for going out and hitting on women, I went out for the first time last week and had the best time. I'm still in love with him, but it was nice to go out and just have fun with my friends talking about my type while they tried to "hook me up". I still consider myself married, but a good friend of mine said "He's not your husband. He's not acting like your husband, so you can't think of him that way anymore." It's a hard one to swallow, and I'm not saying I'm there yet, but it's something I keep in mind now whenever he does or says something hurtful. He's not acting like my husband. He's not my husband. Only legally.
Hope this helps.
Get someone to snap a picture of you and the kids. Put that in a frame and on your desk at work. You still have a family.
It doesnt sound like she wants to admit what she is doing is wrong, otherwise there would be more discussions, communication between you two in general. To leave it stagnent is what mine did. She didnt want to face her lies, and what she did.
Back then I thought she needed time, to be with her friends, etc. She was never planning on comming back. I have to think she was just hoping with time, it would fade and she could just say want the rest of my stuff, my life is different now.