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deleted_user 11/30/2007

I dont know if any of you experience a huge since of jealously when you find out that something good is happening for your ex-spouse. I feel so horrible and like I am not a good Christian because of my emotions of anger and jealously.

I just found out that my ex-husband is getting a new house. I am stuck with trying to sale our old house( me and the kids are living in the home) so we can split the equity. Me and my kids will probally have to live in an apartment and he has a house. I am so angry and none of my friends understand it. They say " Get over it". I wish it were that easy.

I know that God has something special in store for me but sometimes it is hard to see it. The waiting on God to bless me is so hard.

I am so angry because by husband was unfaithful and left his family and it looks like he is living the good life and I have the children and cant hardly do anything.

Any words of encouragement would be helpful right now!

deleted_user 11/30/2007

You got the best part. You have the kids. I have to share custody and it breaks my heart to know that I will not see her face everyday.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

My wife left me and bought a house with her new boyfriend I know all about jealousy. I bought her out of our house but I know how much it hurts. You have to move on and do what is right for you.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Yep, I felt really resentful that he appeared to prosper and I was stuck with pain. The biggest sense of injustice was that I was the person who was interested in buying a home, found it, bought it with him (I was interested in this house with or without him) and due to something he did I had to leave and give it up. I have wrestled with the anger and am now at a point of, better to walk away from property than live with internal misery. I know that I am as likely to do well as the next person and he will throughout his life be held accountable for his actions to others.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I hear ya. God DOES have something in store for you. Patience is the key. You'll have your day.

Something that bothers me (And yes, I do feel the same jealousy) is the fact that the Air Force takes care of my STBX. He gets money for housing and food and all that stuff. Guess where I live at the moment? I live in a tiny room in my parents home. I feel like I live in a box,a nd I have no money to do anything else. At the moment, he lives in a nice new 2 bedroom house on base with a garage and all that stuff. Of course, once the divorce is final, he has to move off base. BUT, he gets $1084 a month for housing.

WHo got screwed there? lol.

Sorry about the rant.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

God gave you human emotions they are there for a reason. so what ever you are feeling it's OK you are just human. Hate, anger, bitterness all of them are OK. Feel them you are human. How one reacts to these feelings is different story. Some people will waste a life time on waitihg for God to make it right. Dont do that. Take controll of your life.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

He gave you free will and choices to make. What will be your choice?

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Friends, I would like to hear from more of you on this topic. Thanks

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I can understand your emotions entirely, it's not fair, nothing in life is fair though you know? We have to make the best hand of the cards we are dealt...Things and homes and cars and stuff, it's just stuff, trying to fill a void, temp fix, a bandaid on a gunshot wound, you have what really matters, family and a chance to start off with a clean slate no skeletons in your closet

chilvr 11/30/2007

sometimes i get so jealous because he got the house, has the money to buy not 1 but 2 new cars (a vet and p/u), but he has gone on with his life and has a live in...i haven't even gone on a date, i live with my married son (who supports me) and i go to school so that maybe, someday, i can support myself. so i get angry and jealous and hurt and pissed off at myself, and none of it does any good!

deleted_user 11/30/2007

I could have written this your post. My ex is moving into a beautiful new home today and his life seems to be going great. Its hard not to feel jealous and hurt.

I also believe God has a plan for our lives..It is very difficult to wait..You know the saying when a door closes, God opens a window. I have been praying for a window to open, back door, skylight, hole in the wall...I'll take anything right now. It will get better!

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Well I got the house- he was court ordered to move out within 48 hours for manipulating me and driving me nuts- problem is I have no idea how I will continue to pay for everything. He makes 3x what I do, I'm juggeling and buying food on a credit card- have no idea what bills he has paid- have no idea where is living or with who- have no idea WHEN he will start paying child and spousal support... it sucks. I'm doing what I can to find a full time job but the economy is so bad and it is a lot more difficult to find decent pay with benigfits with only an associates degree! Count your bleesings- use your single status to get a grant for college if you haven't already finished so YOU can make the big bucks one day and have the house of your dreams!

bigguy3 11/30/2007

I have never felt jealousy with anything my ex-wife has done since the divorce. There are times when I feel like a victim because of all of the things that were taken from me because of the divorce. However, I know that I will be able to make it through this and I am well on my way to being happy again.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

That house is only a thing.
You and your children will be fine. You will prosper.
I hope the house has termites.
And cockroaches the size of small dogs.

deleted_user 11/30/2007

Dear fellow Christian soldier hear this: the jealousy you feel for your ex-hubby is actually a form of coveting. This seriously has to stop. Prey for him, and bless his new home, then prey for strength and guidance in achieving the things you wish for you and your children. Believe me, if you truly detach from the coveting and bless your enemy, you will receive much in return. Then when the bastards house burns down from a freak lightening strike, you won't feel guilty.

TSand 11/30/2007

MoMosa,
That was the greatest thing I have read today, or in recent memory. I know I should pray for her and her new life, but maybe I can pray for a lightning storm instead to bring water to the area!

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