My husband picked up the kids last night and was suppose to bring them back a few hours later. He has my oldest son call me 30 minutes before he is suppose to bring them back and tell me that he wants to spend the night. I said that was ok but I asked him if "the OW" was there and he told me no. My husband finally dropped the kids off this morning after the bus already came and the first thing my daughter said to me was that "the OW" was there. I asked my oldest son if he lied to me and he said yes daddy told me too. I told him that we don't lie. I told him to never lie to mommy or daddy. I also said that I would never have you lie to your daddy because it is not right. I found out "the OW" spent the night in my husbands bed with my kids there. I figured she was living there but everytime I asked my husband he would say no. Well I am so fed up with his lies. He doesn't even realize the message he is sending to our kids about marriage. How do I make sure the kids understand what marriage is all about and thats its not what their daddy is doing without making their daddy look bad.