About 2 months ago my wife started to withdraw from me. She has been dwelling on many issues from her past and issues which have surfaced over the course of our marriage. To me all of the issues which we have can be addressed if we only try to work through them. To her there is no way that she can get over them and will not even consider trying. We have a child together. The issues are on both sides of the marriage. I have some and she has some. I have been working for the last 2 months to fix the issues with me. There was zero communication on her part towards me about what was really bothering her. Only after I figured out the real issues and mentioned them did she begin to open up. She has not used the word divorce yet, but has said she wants to be alone and does not wish to try anymore. Yesterday we spent about 4 hours talking to each other. about 1/2 an hour dealt with our issues and the rest was just friendly chit chat. At the end of the conversation she gave me two big hugs. Today we saw each other at an event for our daughter and she said that she needed some space from me for today. We are going to be together for another event for our daughter tomorrow and I am having dinner at her house with the family. She told a friend of ours that we were split up and were trying to work things out. Later in the evening she told me that she needs space from me and gets upset sometimes at seeing me. I don't know what to think anymore. Anyone out there able to see things from her perspective? Is she just trying to make it easier for the two of us to deal with issues regarding our daughter. She has been great there and we really get along when it comes to her. Do you think she is starting to think of working things out? Is she starting to regret things? I am afraid to ask her right now because I don't want her to feel like I am rushing her to make a decision. I love her to death and will give her the time that it takes for her to make up her mind, but this confusion is getting to me. I have alot of hope that we can fix things, but on the same note I am not so blind as to see that there seems to be no hope.
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