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I am not better today

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deleted_user
No, no, no, not better still feel empty. Would love to know how long this lasts b/c I'm losing my mind. Did not sleep last night and I'm still totally unmotivated to do anything today. Still stuck with my sad bastard music b/c its like a beautiful sadness(slap me for saying something that dippy)where even though I'm crying I atleast feel close to him.

I guess I am being childish, I look around and there are ppl with children in custody battles, ppl who were abused, ppl who invested yrs of their life in a marriage and it just seems that I shouldn't complain. Be that as it may I can't help it, its like my insides were ripped out or I was torn in half. IDK, don't want to be a drama queen but it feels like my world is falling down around me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know beautiful sadness, hang in there...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Gia, you have to go through this stage and grieve we all hate it, but the you have to get it done.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sweet Gia, it is ok to feel lost sometimes. You are dealing with a pain that is all yours. Each person has a different circumstance to deal with, but that doesn't make yours any less real or painful for you. I love you sweetie, I wish I could hold you. You hold a special place in my heart because you remind me so much of my daughter.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hey Princess it will get better you just have to give it a little time. You don't loose a love and get over it the next day its going to take some time. Best to stay away from sad bastard music and try to keep busy. You can't just dwell on the past you have to start moving forward. You have made a decision and now you have to live with it and look to the future. Big hug I hope you start feeling better very soon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
your pain is just as real as anyone elses' don't diminish it simply b/c you aren't in a custody battle or haven't been abused.

i'm sure as an actress, you learn to put on a smile on the outside and mask what it is you are really feeling for a while. it's your turn to feel bad. feel it, use it for your craft and let it go....
meanwhile, it's okay to feel bad. it sucks, it hurts, but it's okay. you can't be happy all the time gia. ((((hugs))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Gia-I know exactly how you are feeling. Sometimes you have to just wallow in it awhile, then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go forward. (I'm still working on the wallowing myself) Hope it passes soon.... So, your not alone dear.
Che2
Che2
You are not being childish..and situations may be different.. but pain is still the same.

It's a big part..but not all of your world. There is still alot left. That's what got me through..the parts that I still had.
Thriver
Thriver
There is no measure or scale for pain. Because we don't need to decide who has more pain and who has less. We're just here to support each other through it.
Don't deny yourself working through your pain. There is no way out but through it. Go ahead and you will come to the other side, no matter how big it is.
deleted_user
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I know exactly how you feel. I don't have any kids and things could be a whole lot worse. However, I still feel very depressed, lonely, and lost being divorced and it hurts worse knowing my ex-wife is with her boyfriend and doesn't think of me.
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Its like for the first time in my life I can't see any blessing in disguise. Typically I'm the one to focus on the positives in my life, but nothing seems good without him.
JennyN
JennyN
Gia, there is a blessing in there somewhere...it may take a while for you to see it though. Allow yourself to feel the pain, but don't let it run your life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ain' no sunshine when your gone. You can do this Gia, you have more strength in you than most of the people I know. You dig deep down inside. No other person can define who you are.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry you are not feeling any better today. But do not try to put a time on how long you should feel this way. You just need to accept that you are in a sad place right now but know that it will get better. And, you are just as entitled to feel your pain as anyone else, regardless of your situation. The only advice I can offer is to force yourself to go about your normal daily activities and to be around other people, family and friends, even though you don't feel like it. It really does help even though it doesn't seem possible to motivate yourself right now. Stay strong!
GiveMeWings
GiveMeWings
Girl, let me tell you what you went through, with/without a custoday battle over kids, is still just as painful. Its a tough line to walk. The sad music may help you to confront the feelings and pain, therfore helping with the grieving. Just be careful not to overdue it. Try to surround yourself with a positive enviornment and ppl. When the pain presents itself, and it will, as hard as it is to do, face it. I have learned that pushing it away may prolong the healing that is trying to take place. I don't know if the pain will ever completely go away, but it WILL get better and you will be stronger because of it. Take care of you. ;)
deleted_user
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Let me help hold it up! Don't excuse your pain or yourself - it's what you feel! And it is quite alright to put it on here, and to know that you have our support!
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