Good luck on your journey dear lady...it will be a lot for you to deal with, we are here for you!

The paper work can be a trying time, take your time. do it then leave it sit and go back over it. I found myself just wanting to get through it.

Great Lyn.. wonderful start.

Just remember you have to take care of yourself.. now and in the future. Take what is yours and what you deserve.

Don't be afraid to ask for more if you need it.

Oh man my husband is self employed and he lied through his teeth on his income. I ended up winning and he ate some big attorney fees but it was a long haul.

Hope fully yours won't but if you need any encouragement or advice, been there done that.

I felt so much better after meeting with my lawyer. Do you?

Good Luck. Doing the paperwork is a very trying experience.

Having a business involved...well, you will learn what you are willing to go through with That.

I just Wasn't...

Yours is more Stable in his Line, you will have better leverage.

My best advice is to Check on Your Tax Consequences and make sure You Know what You will be up against, there. Usually, Alimony is Tax Deductible to the Payee, and the one accepting it Pays the Taxes on it. That can Really hurt on the larger amounts. For some strange reason, my stbx has accepted responsibility for paying the Taxes...I have tried to explain how this will HURT HIM...now I just smile and say Thank You :-D

keep the posts coming. I will need to see all that is involed in this process. You have my support.
Thanks Lyn

As far as the taxes for alimony, I put in my agreement that he has to pay the taxes, I am in NY so it may be different.

Good luck with it! Paperwork is a pain, but at least it is a pain that eventually ends. My wife and I saw the attorney for the first time yesterday and things are probably going to go smoothly because our debt basically equals our assests!!

It sounds like your happy about you visit. I am glad. Take your time with the paper work. Be fair and honost. Never let anyone intimadate you.

Thank you all for your support. I am sure I will be asking questions. I just appreciate you all so very much.

Yes, keep us up-to-date as you go through the process. I've yet to go through it and am very interested in what to expect. I know every state is different but just a generally understanding would be nice.

Good luck with this part of the process, Lyn. Great advice from everyone on here. Do keep us posted! Hugs.

Good luck with the next part of your journey. I'm understanding that it can be tedious and time consuming but it does end! Take care, Beth

Hey does any one know how to handle the taxes if you are still married in the tax year but separated. My x is trying to get me to sign bogus tax returns which I will not do.

Well, as of last night, I may end up going through a divorce after all. Guess the H can't make up his mind. I KNOW in TX, per my attorney (from other things) that I am ENTITLED TO 1/2 of EVERYTHING, other than any inheritance monies that he got before/during our marriage. I also know that it will be a long divorce, if there is one, as there are financial things that will have to be dealt with etc. I hate to even think about the D word, but, it may be coming. :'( Lyn. I'm SO sorry that you have to go through this.!~!