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Husband is filing for divorce - it hurts so bad.

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My husband is filing for divorce. We've been together for only 3 years. We have twins that are 6 mos old. and we both have children from other marriages. This is our family and he's just walking out. I feel very betrayed and can't understand why. We have problems but nothing that can't be fixed. He says we have "irreconcilable differences" and he just wants out. I know that I can't stop him but I don't want a divorce but feel I have no choice. This is now my second marriage and it's harder than the first. How do I come out of this sane?
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i know you're hurting and i know how hard this is. and i am sorry you have to go through it.

i know there's some old saying to the tune of, "if you love someone set them free. and if they come back, you know they are yours forever."

it takes two committed people to make a marriage work. if only one tries, then that one's heart dies.

a lot of us have been there. the hardest part may be not knowing why. i'm sure you've tried reaching out to him.

read our journals and threads. there is much kindness, support & healing to be had on DS.

i wish you all the best. time truly does heal all wounds, even if that's hard to believe right now.

i hope you find that which you seek. best wishes.
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*VERY BIG HUGS TO YOU*---I wish I had the words to make you feel better. It hurts like hell, I just got my papers this Saturday and I know you must be hurting. All I can say is there is a reason for this and you will find inner strength...you have your babies that need and love you very much and you WILL GET THROUGH THIS. Lean on us, thats what we are here for :-)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. You will find many here who have gone through the same things you are going through. You made it throught the first divorce and you will make it through this one as well. I know....I've been there as well. Two marriages, two divorces, neither were my choice, but I had to deal with it and you will too. Hang in there, it does get better.
julik
julik
your's is pretty much my exact story, minus the children. There is nothing to do, but wait it out, and focus on yourself. A minister once told me, it takes 2 people to make a marriage/relationship, it takes only one to break it. Too bad, so sad :( my heart goes out to you.
deleted_user
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Thank you all for the help and understanding. It hurts so much and I do know like the first, this will soon pass. But I really thought that because we were older, both of us had been married before and both been cheated on so we understood what we needed to do. That's why it kills me that he's so ready to just give it all up without a second thought. And to top it off, my first husband left me for a much younger woman so it took me a long time to let my guard down and trust again.
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