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How you let go of anger/resentment/guilt...

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My counselor said I still have a lot of anger/resentment as to who did what etc... I think I feel it because he has not owned much of fault in what went wrong but even when he does, he says he takes full responsibility for what he did but he wouldn't have if I hadn't done whatever I did. Anyhow, I'm so fed up but I am angry that I somehow accept the guilt of whatever he says to me. Deep down I know I'm not guilty but and although I allow him to make me feel guilty, I later resent it and get mad (mostly at myself I suppose). I hate this whole thing of figuring out how to change me so I don't let him manipulate me so much to get his way!
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Found out it was justifed, because of the way I was beeing treated.
After figuring that out I felt much better.
So yes, look at your anger, don't let it comsume you though.
This is the definition of NOT taking responsibility. He is BLAMING you for his actions. It is BULLS--T.
Is your counselor telling you that you shouldn't feel anger?
I just wanted to re-read them later and see if that was what I was really feeling.
I do need to journal or write it all out but I think that when I do a memory lane review, I feel so stupid and depressed that I put up with so much "discounting" of what I wanted and needed.