Anyone else facing the issue of this much-needed change of habit, which is proving (for me) hard to achieve? I am used to my stbx being the person with whom I discuss my thoughts, feelings, emotions, plans, fears, etc. Hey, guess what, in the blink of an eye, that went from the appropriate, expected spousal behavior to a suddenly-inappropriate behavior and even self-defeating, both in terms of emotional vulnerability and exposure and in terms of potential legal complication of settlement issues! I don't know how to suddenly flip that switch and be careful and non-disclosive. That is one motivation for finding this support community, so I can have a place to discuss these issues and re-direct that energy. It's a freaky adjustment to have to make.
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