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How to shut up a cheater!

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I'm so angry right now I probably have smoke coming out of my ears. An friend of mine is cheating on his wife. He has every excuse in the world for it...no intimacy because she would like him to get a vasectomy and he simply won't do that, no no to counseling, no no he won't end the marriage his daughters would be devastated. Today I had enough and said to him "you know what? On the day your first daughter gets married, as you walk her down the aisle, think of all these excuses you have for cheating...but imagine them coming out of you daughters new husbands mouth!

WOW did that shut him UP!
deleted_user
deleted_user
unfortunately, even that wouldn't work with my stbx.... it's the pathological lying that creates the disconnect. i hope it worked for your friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Thats a pretty good line.

Withholding sex as a caveat to force a guy to have a surgical sterilization procedure. Wow. What a female chauvanistic pig.
deleted_user
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Tup, she's had 3 children, and four miss carriages. He thinks it would be better if she had surgery...anyway it's just an excuse.
deleted_user
deleted_user
he could invest in some trojans also...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well, HE'S a pig.

I hate to see anyone forcing a surgical procedure on a partner.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That was perfect, absolutely perfect!

I'm sure it won't stop him from cheating, but at least he might stop telling you about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just for kicks and giggles, I have a little porker in me also.

Suuuuuuuuuu-eeeeeee!
deleted_user
deleted_user
HOLY CRAP. I could not imagine a better reason to never cheat on someone. I could not imagine someone doing that to my daughter. I never thought of it that way, not that i have ever been a cheater, but still. damn.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Outstanding!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I hit below the belt!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good for you courrier! Nothing worse than a cheater!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I can understand her wanting him to get snipped. My stbx wanted me to do the same (all in vain) and I did to ease her mind and b/c I love her. He will use whatever excuse is possible. Maybe he will think next time. Hope he does.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
haha ... nice! about time she shut up.

What I dont get is instead of putting the effort back in to their other, they go off for someone they barely know and expect, in a few years, or less, it wont be the same?

When will people learn relationships take work.
deleted_user
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Kudos to you. I wish I could think like that on my feet. Maybe I'll borrow it ...knowing my luck it won't have any effect.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Technically, he's already revoked his ability to claim his balls as his. No one who excuses cheating because of things they can control but choose not to has any right to claim they're a man, either.

Why don't you do him a favor and "deliver" a shot to the groin to seal the deal?
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