
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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I am currently back living with my wife of 2 years..we have been together 6 years..We were seperated for about 6 weeks or so after I found out she had an affair..I kicked her out of the house and tried to move on..I was miserable..her relationship feel apart ina short few weeeks and she claims to have made the biggest mistake of her life..I love her deeply..and a tthe same time cannot help but look in her eyes sometimes and see nothing but her with someone else..it is destroying me inside..I have a few good days..TV shows,songs..anything and everything bring it all back to me like ripping open old wounds. Is it possible to move on from this..I am a very proud man..admittently so,and her former lover is lucky to be still breathing.but another 100 guys would step up and do the same thing..so I ask for wisdom.advice perhaps Is this possible..I dont want to love her..that would be the easy solution.We also have 2 children 6 and 14 so this only adds to the drama of the situation.Any advice??? HELP I am prone to depression at times and I am so there..mood swings off the charts.. It is a bad day today..Paul
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"One thing that I see that is missing is validation of the pain that your wife is suffering. I would suggest that you hold your wife in your arms and tell her (sincerely) that you are so sorry you hurt her so badly. Do this many, many times. Validation is a powerful thing to do. Your wife has been wounded deeply, and just like a major wound (as opposed to a scrape), it will take a long time and a lot of care for it to heal. You can't just put a bandage on a big gunshot wound and expect it to heal. It has to be cared for and cleaned every day for a long time.
That's what it's going to take for this emotional wound to heal. Patience, love and care. Sincerely telling her you're sorry you hurt her will go a long way!
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