I think it is possible..but only if she is willing to do whatever she needs to do to make things right. You can't do it all by yourself.

this is truly a pickle...i have friends on here that have gone through the same and their marriage survived and they are happier than ever. i also have other friends, including me, whose marriage did not survive, but are still happier than other. only you will know what the right answer is for both. i think if you are both committed to making the relationship work and give 110% then you have more than a chance. you can have a healthy marriage again. but you need time to grieve and heal right now. we are all here for support. i hope you find the answers you are seeking.

Only you can decide if you are able to get past this. If you really want to try you guys are going to have to go to counselling, you have to deal with your fealings in a healthy manor. Open the lines of communication and tell her when you are having one of your "bad" days. Talk openly and honestly about how you are feeling. I belive that a marriage can survive infedelity, but it takes time and more effort than most are capable of putting forth. I hope this helps, and I hope you guys can get past this!

You can come back from infidelity if you are both motivated to, but she has to work her ass off to regain your trust. You should go to marriage counseling right away!

I don't blame you for wanting to kick his ass. If only one could get away with it.

Hi. I think the thing you should hang on to is that love comes with risks, but love amazing and you will be far happier with it than without. I get what you say that you love her but you don't want to- but that is the type of love that is the butterfly feeling or extreme hurt. There is another type of love, which forgives and acts kindly. This is the best love, but it takes work. If you feel you can try then do. And pray. Pray lots as God loves you, even when it feels like he doesn't. And I would also tell your wife this- tell her that even if you fall out of love with her you will try to love her forever. Ask her to give you the same. It's worth it and I very much hope you can work it out. You're not alone. xx

Paul I feel your pain I am a Proud man as well and this hurt like hell. You inspire me for wanting to work it out. Your family is lucky. There is nothing wrong with loving her you have to make sure she does right by you going forward.

Someone posted this reply to for another person who cheated on his wife and he was wondering if she would ever get past it.

The person who posted this response pretty much summed up the perfect apology and I know if my wife apologized like this we may still be together today. I had to copy it into m email just to hold onto it. I have to thank her whe I find that post again. You may want to show this to your wife just take the word "wife" and "her" out below and put your name in

"One thing that I see that is missing is validation of the pain that your wife is suffering. I would suggest that you hold your wife in your arms and tell her (sincerely) that you are so sorry you hurt her so badly. Do this many, many times. Validation is a powerful thing to do. Your wife has been wounded deeply, and just like a major wound (as opposed to a scrape), it will take a long time and a lot of care for it to heal. You can't just put a bandage on a big gunshot wound and expect it to heal. It has to be cared for and cleaned every day for a long time.

That's what it's going to take for this emotional wound to heal. Patience, love and care. Sincerely telling her you're sorry you hurt her will go a long way!

My 19 year old son had a wreck with me in the car when he had his learner's permit. My shoulder was hurt enough that I had to go to PT. I remember being amazed that he told me every day for about a month that he was so sorry he had hurt me. It was so sincere and meant so much to me (and was freely given - I certainly wasn't complaining about what happened). But it really made me feel good about my son's character. So, go out of your way to love and care for her and tell her everyday that you're so sorry you hurt her. You may have to do it every day for a year and then once a week for a long time. But if you do love her, this will be a gift you can give her to make up for the wound you caused!"

I'm far past my ex and any thoughts of ever reconciling, but at the start of t his mess I was willing to forgive and go to counseling to try and fix the relatiionship. He wasn't. Also you might want to see your doctor and see if anti depressants might help your mood swings.