Whatever I can. I have a foodbank drive coming up. I have a house that needs cleaning, I have a life that needs to be lived. You will be OK. Just take it moment by moment. And try to make a new memory or two.

Definitely try to make new memories for YOU. I have a lot of BAD memories of the holidays because of his lack of involvement. Here's something to maybe make you smile. (At least you have GOOD memories to be thankful for!) Here's one of MY memories of a Christmas past. Our son was 2 months old. You know what I got for Christmas? A Fifth of Crown Royal and a slew of NASTY lingerie from Frederick's of Hollywood! HA OMG! He was such an ass. Look back and realize there are those that didn't have great times as you said. Realize that there are those that the holidays held nothing but disappointment and bad memories. I'm ready to start my life and make the most of it FOR ME. Right now, find something that makes YOU happy and dwell on the new beginning for you. I will keep you in my prayers! Good luck and God bless!

Someone once made a comment to me when I was complaining that I can't get the memories out of my head. They said, "It's time to create new ones!" I never thought of it that way, but it struck a chord so deep, that since that comment, I've been trying my damnedest to remember good times with friends and family. Slowly, those old memories that used to haunt me when I laid in bed all alone, are going away.

just remember that if you spend too much dwelling on the past, the present will pass you by...

I just have to sing the praises of volunteering. Your local chamber or commerce or city council should have a list of agencies who use volunteers. Go through the list and find something that interests you. I do animal rescue and it's so rewarding and I've met some fantastic, caring people. It makes me feel like I'm giving to the world instead of just taking, and I really need that right now!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Think of it this way, you are FREE to make new traditions, to explore new options and make new memories. Use your imagination! Volunteering can be great..so many people would to have you spend time with them..and even though they are strangers today....homeless shelters need help serving meals, senior citizen centers too, childrens hospitals and military hospitals ALWAYS need extra hands!

There's so much good to do..and so little time!

argg! Thanksgiving is our anniversary holiday... was? I'm at sea without any possible means to breach the idleness of my mind without thinking about her... I suppose I'll just work as much as I can doing more strenuous stuff as opposed to paperwork.

This is a tough one. I have to work a lot, so basically I am just worried about Christmas. Thanksgiving, luckily I was invited to a friends house.
Last New Years and Christmas my STBX left me alone to go get high. So I was already alone. He hated Christmas. I doubt I am going to decorate just for me, but I am volunteering at the Nutcracker again so that helps. At least I am doing something fun and social for Christmas.

I was just thinking "How am I gonna make it through the holidays?" And then it hit me- just because I lost one person, that doesn't mean I don't have so many more people to be thankful for.

It still hurts, and it sucks, but there are good things in my life that are separate from him. That makes me think I just might make it.

I too have bad memmories of the holidays my STBX ruined them for me everyyear so this one dosen't seem that different he is still makeing it suck