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How to keep OW away from my children

deleted_user
deleted_user
I do not feel that it is right to be bringing the girlfriend around my children. My children daughter 13 son 12 have told their father they don't want to meet her. He brought her to my son's soccer game against his wishes. Why do our feeling not matter? We are not divorced yet. Is it necessary for them to be put in this situation. Please know he has no other relationship with the kids except showing up to my sons soccer games. He has not taken them son or daughter since August. I have filed a motion with the court to try and keep her away. But what I don't understand is why he is doing this. It is so upsetting. Please someone tell me why he is being so selfish??????????????? And what I can do.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am in the same boat. I won until we are divorced. He hasn't seen my daughter since Feb and son since June. Doesn't even try since I blocked the ow.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds like a sociopath. Don't laugh; there are lots of them out there.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Is he using the kids to get back at you???
My stbx was pushing my buttons, I tried not to show it, and eventually she quit.
Above all, take the high road. Go to court but don't retaliate, people will notice the way you conduct yourself, and the way he does his.
After a while the novelty to him should wear off.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My x's gf is a drug addict who lost custody of her own 2 young children. Her drug use and custody tribulations were not even brought up until the divorce was final and he violated the CO banning him from having kids around OW. He then petitioned that my bf not be allowed around kids. My bf is an angel...lol...seriously. This was over a month ago...he lost, I won. Divorce was final Aug 6. My bf can be around kids...his gf cannot. He never exercised visitation before divorce because his gf couldn't be around them and now he doesn't exercise visitation either. He's just a selfish jerk who puts the needs and wants of his gf before those of his children.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am going through the same thing. He does take the boys every other weekend, but they stay at her house. We are still married and have not filed yet. I talked to a lawyer and he said there is nothing I can do. Good luck to you.
diemjs
diemjs
The OW in my life sleeps in MY bed in MY house. Yes, I left him but it is still MINE!! The only thing I can say is swallow hard. Its a HUGE pill, but it will go down. AND I KNOW HOW BITTER IT IS!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
You already said the word SELFISH. It's all about him and what he wants. I asked stbx to not bring out kids around OW as well. But did he listen HECK NO. He even denied he was living with OW until I confronted him time and time after our children kept mentioning her name. What a JA!!!!!!!
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