all you can do is take it one day at a time. no one wants this. it is a rollercoaster of feelings: sadness, loneliness, broken dreams, reinventing yourself, hope and hopefully, somedays, happiness. hang in there.

I would strongly suggest moving on, unless councelling could be done. I've seen many couples rebound from infidelity. But I think living in your home as things are must be difficult to cope with. *hugs* Here you will have friends who will love and support you.

Hon, she did it to you. People are mean, hurtful and you sound like such a great guy. We are all hurting to no end and there are no answers, I am sorry. You have to deal with it like we all do, the aching, the misery, the hell. It is not easy. People don't seem to care anymore, there are NO answers. Be safe to you, love you, know that it is NOT you that made this decision.

when someone shocks you like that there are so many feelings and you feel them all at once or at different interval throughout the day. It is not fair when this happens. It must be really difficult to be in the same house with her. It would be like slap in the face every time you see her. I would not be able to handle that. My husband told me 3 months ago that he doesn't love me...today, is the best morning I've had since then-nothing really special, just feel a little tiny bit of hope in my heart that my children and I will be OK and that I will be loved some day. Now, as for this afternoon? I will have to wait and see. Life is such a roller coaster. Hang on tight-it is a wicked, wicked ride.

I understand what you're feeling about living together..it is so hard...just seeing the person and not being able to reach out to them and be one with them anymore, and knowing there is someone else in their life. I am RIGHT there with you. I don't know how much longer I can cope either. Luckily my stbx travels with his job and since his new girlfriend is where he goes to travel, he'll probably travel a little more except that he does like to spend time with our kids at home. (18,19,21)
Those times when he is gone give me a rest, kinda sorta...it's the times he's gone that my mind goes wild with what they are doing..:(
One day at a time Looking...one day, one hour, one minute, one second..keep here at DS, it is so supportive.

Thank you guys so much. I am glad I came across this site

I feel vengence. I feel angry. I feel betrayed. I feel lonely. I feel that there is no future. I do not wish this feeling upon anybody.

I fell hoplessness more than anything else. I keep saying in the back of my mind "oh he'll come back he loves me and our children." But then I realize its a dream and he's gone. The actions spoke volumes and I was too optimistically blind to see them. *cry*

I had a dream last night that my wife said she wanted to give it another go of our marriage and how she feel bads. Then I woke up. Even after all this I would still take her back. I hate dreaming right now. It sucks.

My soulmate. My husband. I trusted him....after 13 years he gave up and left....not for another woman...just for freedom and his single life. You have to rebuild...it is easier when they are gone because while they are in the same house you hope...and it hurts more...

Unfortunately there is no way to fast track the pain and anguish. One hour, one day at a time. Take care of yourself. Go out and do stuff even if you don't feel like it. For me, talking to good friends has helped the most.

I know how you feel. It's happening to me too. I was cheated on and I'm going through all the same emotions as you. Iunderstand the shock, the anguish. I found out a week ago and I had to immediately leave. I realize more and more every day that it was the right decision.

Allow yourself to feel all of those emotions. You are entitled to all of those feelings. Healing begins at the first discovery of betrayal. If you supress those feelings - you won't be albe to heal. It sound like this is very recent. You've done the right thing by finding this site! I can't even begin to tell you how much it helped me. I will pray for you, but int he meantime, just know that God has a plan - and while we go thru adversity it's hard to see that, but it will come clear one day, and life will be 1000 times better than what it was. You will be okay. You have to believe in that, the rest just takes time. You're in my thoughts!

time to visit your local library for a stock of books you always wanted to read, but never had time to do it ;-) I found that although reading does seems to be difficult to concentrate on, it still the best time filler, and you don't have to get out of your room. at least it helps me, anyway