Just to answer your question I don't know of any way to find her. I would also advice you not to do it. She is not important at least thats what I keep telling myself. I know where the OW is. She is in my house driving my truck around town. She also msgs me about her and my husband. I mean go figure. Just don't do it. Don't let her get the best of you.

JM, I don't suggest you "find" this "psycho" as you call her. I would just let it go. It will cause YOU more pain in the end. YOU do NOT need that. I know, it hurts like hell to be cheated on, I've been through it. I wish I had something that I could say to ease your pain, but I don't.... All I can say is "Keep Your Chin Up!~!" You are in my prayers!~! If you need to talk, I'm here. There IS light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm so sorry...

I agree with the others, finding her isn't going to solve anything in your head. Your husband is the one who should get an ass whoopin! How dare he!

It's not worth it. There are always women willing to go with a married man. Focus your anger where it belongs, on him. You will not find what you are looking for by locating her.

You're all right, I don't need to find her. The initial papers have already been filed, he caved on placement of our kids, it's his addiction and not my problem anymore.

I'm just mad that it's coming between him and our boys.

and what would you do when you did find her? confront her? cause more grief in your life when she tells you what you don't want to hear? just leave it alone, I tell you from twice experience in this, you will only end up hurting yourself more than letting sleeping dogs lie.

Women who are willing to be party to breaking up the home of small children are sociopaths, so there is nothing in their mind to address yourself to.

You really don't want to do that. It won't do any good. I have seen pictures of the om, have emailed and texted with him. It didn't do anything to make me feel better.

don't bother!!
i know and get the wanting to, but it'll be never ending. don't give her that power over your precious time and energy.
i have OW's face burned in my memory, sometimes that's all i see when i close my eyes. i would give anything for that image to go away. please don't go there.
save yourself that mistake i made. there was never any closure there b/c she didn't care about anyone but her selfish self...just like stbx.

o.k. say you find the ow, then what? will it change a damn thing? You will still hurt and still be mad.

Try www.whores.com

Have any friends who are cops? work at the drivers burear?

Cherup...what you are suggesting is illegal. My best friend is a cop and they take an oath to never abuse their access to records for personal reasons. That would put them at risk of loosing their job...Not fair to ask such a thing of a friend.

Try www.whores.com

LOL.

Yes it is an irresistible urge. Been there, done that.
Doesn't help. (except mine is fairly high profile and I am happy to report that I have seen her on stage and in pictures and yes, I AM better looking then her, shallow but satisfying)