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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

deleted_user
I am trying to understand what the heck "my role" is in this new dichotomy of relationship. My ex and I have been divorced for over a year. He physically abused me once after years of verbal and emotional abuse. He is also a contractor over in the middle east and loves to play soldier after being one for years. He came back in August and is living with this woman who, in my opinion, is the biggest piece of trash I have ever met. I knew her from where we used to work out prior to the divorce. She comes from a very bad family, in fact, her daughter has "disowned her" and she doesn't know where she is.
The ex is now living with this woman who lives with her mother and several nephews. They live in the finished garage and are planning on buying a house together soon. He is going back over seas.
She had originally started trying to see my kids while the ex was overseas as part of some agreement she had with the ex. I stopped it as it was just too weird. She would buy them things and he would send HER the money. She wanted to play "mommie".
So now, she's with him, every waking moment. I obviously do NOT ever want him back. but, I can't help but feel the absolute disdain I feel for her. I need to let it go. I don't know how. I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. They're buying a house together next and not getting married, so the kids can't spend weekends with their dad.
Does anyone else want to just punch the day lights out of their ex's new "love"?
Do I ignore her? Do I talk to her? She's always with him when he comes to get the kids. It's really bothering me.
What should I do?
The ex is now living with this woman who lives with her mother and several nephews. They live in the finished garage and are planning on buying a house together soon. He is going back over seas.
She had originally started trying to see my kids while the ex was overseas as part of some agreement she had with the ex. I stopped it as it was just too weird. She would buy them things and he would send HER the money. She wanted to play "mommie".
So now, she's with him, every waking moment. I obviously do NOT ever want him back. but, I can't help but feel the absolute disdain I feel for her. I need to let it go. I don't know how. I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. They're buying a house together next and not getting married, so the kids can't spend weekends with their dad.
Does anyone else want to just punch the day lights out of their ex's new "love"?
Do I ignore her? Do I talk to her? She's always with him when he comes to get the kids. It's really bothering me.
What should I do?

deleted_user
Try a lead pipe? Only kidding, it is tough to see your kids with someone you do not approve of. I would try to keep tabs on the situation with subtle questions to the kids. Non invasive but informational so that you know everything is all right. I would treat her like any other woman because if she is as trashy as you say your x will get his just due.

deleted_user
This woman should not come onto your property to get the kids. There is no reason for you to deal with her at all. It is good that they cannot sleep over where they are shacked up.

Thriver
Just be civil and keep tabs on what is going on at their house. Try not to get too stressed. That is all he can get - he couldn't keep anyone like you.

deleted_user
why can't the kids stay there when they buy a house together? maybe i'm missing something, i've had a few drinks.
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