I am trying to understand what the heck "my role" is in this new dichotomy of relationship. My ex and I have been divorced for over a year. He physically abused me once after years of verbal and emotional abuse. He is also a contractor over in the middle east and loves to play soldier after being one for years. He came back in August and is living with this woman who, in my opinion, is the biggest piece of trash I have ever met. I knew her from where we used to work out prior to the divorce. She comes from a very bad family, in fact, her daughter has "disowned her" and she doesn't know where she is.

The ex is now living with this woman who lives with her mother and several nephews. They live in the finished garage and are planning on buying a house together soon. He is going back over seas.

She had originally started trying to see my kids while the ex was overseas as part of some agreement she had with the ex. I stopped it as it was just too weird. She would buy them things and he would send HER the money. She wanted to play "mommie".

So now, she's with him, every waking moment. I obviously do NOT ever want him back. but, I can't help but feel the absolute disdain I feel for her. I need to let it go. I don't know how. I don't understand what I'm supposed to do. They're buying a house together next and not getting married, so the kids can't spend weekends with their dad.

Does anyone else want to just punch the day lights out of their ex's new "love"?

Do I ignore her? Do I talk to her? She's always with him when he comes to get the kids. It's really bothering me.

What should I do?