Let me start by saying I made mistakes in my marriage of ten years. I have three wonderful children who are my light at the end of this dark tunnel. For the last 2 years I have supported my wife while she went to school. I changed the dippers, washed the dishes, cooked the dinners, packed the lunches, helped with homework, did laundry, cleaned the house, as well as being the primary bread winner for my family. The thought behind our decision was a solid 2 income family. Little did I know I was being used. How could I be so stupid and do everything I did for her. She dumped me 3 days after graduation. I had no where to go so I stayed at the house for a week and continued my daily routine. Well in an effort to oust me from the house and get some leverage to take the kids out of state one of her friends called Child Protective Services on me. They did not investigate because they allegations lacked credibility. They decided to take it a step further. See I am in the military. This person called my command, and protocol is to remove the Military member from the home no matter what. Basically I am guilty til proven innocent. I was not allowed in the home or to talk to my children until the investigation was complete. It was the longest week of my life. No evidence of any wrong doing was found and I was immediately allowed to see my children, but only on her terms. So I have to take my kids to a park every other day to spend time with them. The house is packed up and they are set to move back to Ohio in 2 weeks. My kids miss me and ask me if I still love Mommy. This was the worst Fathers day ever. She didn't let the kids call me, and would not answer her phone. I came to this site because of the worst fathers day ever. All I have seen in the forums are sarcastic posts that downplay the role of fathers. Anyone sympathetic to this please share your thoughts on how to overcome the loss of what you thought was your life long partner while your children get striped away from you only to visit them in the summer and on Christmas when I am not deployed.
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