My soon to be ex wife and I have been married two years. We dated for two years prior to getting married so I still feel like I am losing my best friend. She is still the only person in the world that knows me best, and I still want us to have some kind of relationship, even if it is just being friends. It was her decision to leave, and I can see why now. I never thought that divorce would even be an option, but figured we would seperate. We were going to be seperated for a long while anyway, because I am leaving for Iraq June 4th! I know that she needs her space, but it has only been a week, and we have issues like going through the house and splitting up belongings. I want to start on this stuff and move on because I will be leaving soon, and I need to be moved out of our house before deployment so that it can be ready to sell. I have left her one voicemail in the last four days asking when she would like to do this, but she has not responded. I am a Christian man, and I have gotten closer to God through all of this. Even though I did not want to divorce, I feel that God was telling me to make her happy no matter what the cost, because I was not emotionally there for her over the last ten months or so. She is the most caring person I know and I want nothing more for her to gain back her caring and loving nature so that she can heal and learn to love again, even if it is with someone else. I am just having a hard time with having to leave so soon after the shock of all of it, and come back home after a year or more and start over. I feel like my life is on hold until I get back. I have to find a new residence when I return and the pain will probably come back. She on the other hand has gone back to her parents and is starting over now. I just wish because she pushed me to sign papers so quickly, that she could help me move on in my own way as well. That being helping me move out and deploy. Does anyone have any feelings about this or similar instances?
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