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How should I behave.

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My son who has been sick lately must go for an upper GI with sedation (he is 5). I informed my X with a text message and a phone conversation. I know he will be there. I'm wondering how I'm going to get through waiting in the wating room with him. He has lied, cheated, deceived, played head games, berated and is telling people I'm mentally ill (talking about the pot calling the kettle black--our marital therapist told me he's the one with a personality disorder!) Any how I have no respect for him. I just want to be the chromosomes that gave him his kids. I'm not intrested in a friendship or anything. I'm not trying to be hurtful I just want nothing to do with him. Any suggestions?
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Bring a book.
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Take something to do in the waiting room - knitting, a book, or something. Even some sort of game to play with your child. Answer any questions he might ask with short, polite answers, but do not keep a conversation going. You can be polite, but aloof.
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Take a book, magazine, anything that you can look at and pretend that he isn't there.

IGNORE him as much as possible.

You will be stressed enough without having to deal with Him-lived it and know where you are at.
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agree w the others (bring a book) and be cool as ice.
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I agree with other ppl suggestions and also if there is another room to wait in also I'd do that too!
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you are going to be there for your CHILD, don't even think about him! Bringing a book is a good idea, or knitting, crossword puzzles, etc..

Years ago I learned the secret of these things...bring a bunch of 'goodies' for the nursing staff...it may get you seated in the "staff" lounge..where you can then bash the hell out of him behind his back! He will then be ignored..or at best have staff walk by and blow air out their nostrils!
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Bring an iPod. Nobody likes the 'headphone on, headphones off, headphones on, etc." He'll get the hint and leave you alone.
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All these suggestions are good, I would only add to approach it as a business relationship. Respectful and distant.

I hope the test turns out well for your son!
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all good ideas
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bring a book, laptop if you have one. how about a friend or family member going with you. just remember why your there. and pat your self on the back for letting him know about your son. you could have been a real shit about it and not told him. kudos to you. the kids always come first. you rock, mom.
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