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will this divorce proceeding take? I know we have to gt the child cstody matters figured out 1st and it will be settled soon. 2nd meeting with mediation is on 12/05 but then we have to go thru the financial parts of everything. what to do with the house, assets. etc. he is living here til its final and so he is talking to his attorney about going on a plan of some sort. like i pay 20% He pays 80 or something like that cause he says he cant afford child support, alimony etc.

im confused. my attorney sent out this motion fr alimony, child support and contribution of household goods and he says he cant afford any of it. he wants to have me go on so called plan . im already paying for my car, prescriptions, co pays, grocerie,gas and stuff for bdays and plus a little at a time christmas shopping. i want it to be over soon
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Annmd,
I hope it does end for you soon.
hang in there. You'll get through this.
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Most states specify have timeframes for divorce, some 60 days some a year. Google your state/province and 'divorce law' to find out.

You may also find tables that show how support is determined. Some states have child support calculators, bringing it down to numbers and taking out emotion. Plug in your two incomes and a few other things and it gives you the amount of support. *Good Luck*
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ugh...hang in there. Mine was divorce final before I knew it...literally but the mess continues. It took 6 months and the judge decided to grant the divorce decree WITHOUT a settlement in place. This was for my lying, cheating, stealing, x's benefit since he bought our farm at auction and couldn't get financing while still married to me. I was furious because the final decree was what my x was after so he could drag out the rest and I couldn't move on with my money...HOWEVER it's backfired. Until there's a settlement, the money we've accrued during our marriage remains in escrow. He's bought all of this stuff and has NOTHING to use for a down payment. I'm sure he didn't think about that one. :) God works in mysterious ways...that day all I could think about was the fact that x got what he wanted, what would benefit him and I didn't. Turns out it actually benefitted me...I was able to emotionally move on...and didn't benefit him the way he'd planned.

Good luck, be patient, and know that things happen for a reason. Fight for what you and the children deserve.
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Not sure. My stbx filed February 2007 and we still aren't divorced.
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My STBX and I entered into a settlement in the beginning of Oct...I'm still waiting for the papers to sign.
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