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How Long?

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How long could it last? The battle of the heart and mind: mind understands that I was betrayed by the only closest person in my life, yet heart cries out and ready to forgive. But of course, no one asked to be forgiven. Hb has another woman he admitted he is in love with. He said: she is like addiction to him he cant stop thinking of her, cant get her out of his mind. The same time he tells he loves me, sometimes he said he loves me more then her, only not with passion. We both keep crying for the last two months, he is unable to make his choice, Im devastated by the sudden crash of my worldHow long would you say this might last? Months? Years? Never ends? Its wrecking my life, affecting my ability to do my jobIve been reading all I can ever find on line to help to cope with thisI want to ask you kind people: how long does it take to let go and be in piece with it?
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I feel like we are walking in the same shoes. my husband just admitted to me about having an affair and he cares for her. I told him I would work with him and try to continue our marriage and he walked out on me. As much as i want him back I can't force him to do anything. Time will heal wounds, how long depends on how long it takes for you to do what is best for you. Only you can help yourself now. I am learning that, slowly.
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i wish that i could give you an answer to that question. i don't know when your going to start to heal, but i do know you will stay miserable longer listening to his crap about the OW being his passion and he can't be without her BULLSHIT. he tells you he loves her more, stop letting him hurt you with words. put a stop to it. thats not love. none of what he is telling you is love. he is bullshitting you because he feels guilty. so when will it start to stop hurting, it will start when you stop talking to him. believe me, you don't deseserve to have your self-esteem taken down by this jerk. i don't mean to hurt you, but he does not love you honey. people that love you don't do this.
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I want be as abbrasive as "chrurop"... however in my opinion she's 100% right. I am a living example of someone spose crying to them while sleeping with some one else. I did the crying thing with her and everything else she wanted me to do so she could feel better about herself while she destroyed our marriage. Please take some advise, I went thru 2 months of horror, and I did it to myself... he made a choice, start your healing process today and let him have his choice without you.
She's also right when she said when someone loves you they do that to you. Please, Please start caring for yourself and don't let your thoughts and emotions keep you on that distructive path.
I let go 2 weeks ago, and I still hurt but like I was when I was listen to that stuff I cnstantly let her feed me.
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It is impossible for two people in a relationship to reconcile while a third-party in involved.

The OW needs to go before you can work on your marriage.

And if your husband refuses, there's your answer.
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I agree with the other posts. My husband wasn't willing to have her out of his life, he said that he would only be friends, but it was so painful for me if he really did value our marriage she wouldn't have stayed so important. I have still had a hard time letting go, he told me about her in April, and left me in August.
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